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obsessive thoughts

I keep having obsessive thoughts of my husband cheating. even having recurring dreams about it! Someone please help me get rid of these thoughts!
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248167 tn?1220363690
Not trying to change him. i too am social and friendly but he tends to come off very flirtatious at times. I have forgiven him but I can't let it go. I don't accuse him or hound him at all but instead I keep it to myself and it drives me crazy!! I read into EVERYTHING!!
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Well being social and friendly should not be an issue.  You cant change who he is and if you try it will only be harder for you.  Trust is very hard to build and once shattered its harder to rebuild. So this is your anxiety trigger . You both need to work on this. Have you forgiven him? Truly! If not it will aggravate your miss trust making you more anxious.  You need to speak to him and say i need to trust you and you cant do it alone!  Sorry you are reading this fr  
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248167 tn?1220363690
Would live to but Im not sure how willing he would be...
He actually has issues himself (bipolar) and its been kinda hard to get him to see someone. The only time he is willing to is when he's having really bad episodes.
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You could visit a marriege councelor...like therapy for couples...
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248167 tn?1220363690
He has in the past so I do have reason for the mistrust. Lately it's bad tho. I hate that it's on my mind every minute of the day. even when we're together and his phone rings or he gets a txt my heart automatically drops! it's not normal and it doesn't help that he is extremely friendly and social with too many female friends.
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do you have any reasons to think he might be actually cheating? can they be your anxiety triggers. you need to find them and avoid them or control them.

trust me its not that easy to cheat. I done it and i have been suffering for it .. if he is in fact doing this you could tell he will to suffer

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Why don't you try talking to a psychologist about it? He can teach you how to dismiss those thoughts...
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