First, the easy to give but hard to take answer: I can give you no idea of how long your current level of symptoms will persist. This may give you more insight, but be forewarned it's on the long side:
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Dysautonomia-Autonomic-Dysfunction/Some-General-Information-on-Prognosis/show/1627585
As to which medications are preferable in POTS, I think it's important to know a little more about your symptom profile (and hopefully your doctor is taking this into account as well). I am *guessing* based upon the fact that in all of the medications that you are mentioning your doc considering you have not mentioned Midodrine (ProAmatine) that you do not have a predominant problem with blood pooling in your legs and abdominal bed? If you're not sure, think about whether your feet/legs tend to get discolored (blue/purple/gray ... different people describe it differently) when you are upright, particularly for periods of time without moving your legs around; whether your feet/legs have a tendency to dramatically change temperature (relative to the rest of your body) when you are upright/standing for long periods of time without moving around; whether there is any swelling in your ankles or feet over the course of the day when you're upright; and whether compression garments (hosiery or abdominal binders) have helped your symptoms if you've tried those. For some people, pooling just isn't a major issue, for others it may be THE major issue. Certain drugs, especially Midodrine because it is a vasoconstrictor—something that causes constriction of the blood vessels, address this issue especially well.
Fludrocortisone (Florinef) helps your body to retain sodium and fluids, thereby increasing blood volume/pressure. I understand your concern that if your blood pressure is normal now, taking fludrocortisone could make it high. That is not necessarily the case. To understand why, you have to think about what is happening inside the body of a person with POTS to make their heart go fast when they are upright. The tachycardia of a person with POTS is actually a compensatory mechanism. It is not the root problem, it is a result of the root problem, one of the body's reactions to the root problem. Above I discussed patients who have pooling blood; that is one scenario. In that situation, when the patient is upright, some percentage of their total blood volume is displaced (pooled) out of their central circulation. Let's use the example of 30%, so now we are left with only 70% of the total blood volume circulating to provide vital oxygen to the heart, lungs, and brain. What does the heart do? It speeds up!! If that 70% of the blood volume moves FASTER, it can have a better chance of meeting the oxygen needs of those vital organs (particularly the brain where only a 20% drop in oxygen saturation is needed to cause loss of consciousness).
Another thing that can happen is a person may have an acute or chronic hypovolemia (low blood volume); their blood isn't pooling, they just don't have sufficient blood volume to begin with. Dehydration is one way this occurs, but there can be other reasons for hypovolemia. In this situation, fludrocortisone can be particularly helpful because it can increase the blood volume. When you improve the underlying cause, you expect to see the result (the high heart rate) to improve as well. People can have a hypovolemia bad enough to cause POTS but still have a normal blood pressure.
Some people have pooling and hypovolemia and take medication for both.
As your doctor pointed out, beta blockers are another option. They address the high heart rate. They have a higher symptom resolution rate than midodrine in some recent research, particularly on younger patients. There are many different beta blockers out there and some are "targeted" differently than others so some patients find that while one doesn't work for them, another does.
What are you taking the klonopin for? Sleep? Central nervous system sensitization? Something else? If you don't like it and it's not helping what it's supposed to be helping, talk to your doctor. I'm on it and it helps me immensely, but it's not for everyone. You don't have to take anything you don't like.
SSRIs can indeed take weeks to show full effects, and sometimes you still need to play with dosages to get the proper outcomes. And sometimes you find it just isn't the right med for you ... While "fiddling with" these neurochemicals can indeed lead to marked improvement for autonomic patients, unfortunately this all still at least as much an art as a science, so a LOT of patience is required on our end.
Even if everything you try goes bust, there are other options out there. There are many meds in the classes of drugs you've mentioned (beta blockers, SSRIs and related). I mentioned midodrine. There's also Mestinon. There are others, depending on your symptoms and test results.
Finally, I'm sorry to hear that you feel awful every day. Has your doc discussed anything to address your symptoms directly, especially the nausea? That one can really take the zest out of life if it's severe, I know. There are a number of different nausea meds out there. Be aware that "promethazine" (which is in the same class of drugs as benadryl, so this applies to that as well) is a nausea medication that can be contraindicated in some folks with autonomic dysfunction, so approach with caution if you're Rxed that. While some with dysautonomia can take those meds with no issues whatsoever, they can put others into a tailspin of autonomic symptoms. If you've taken benadryl (or for that matter, promethazine or some other 1st generation H1 antihistamine) since the dysautonomia started and had no problems, you're probably in the clear (but may want to double-check with your doc); otherwise, be cautious about those and always ask the doctor if it's okay for you to take. A good alternative for nausea medication is Zofran (generic: ondansetron) but it's expensive so may not be a great option if insurance won't cover it. And just to be clear, 2nd generation H1 antihistamines (e.g., Zyrtec, Claritin) are not in that same "problematic" class as benadryl.
Let me know what other questions you have if any,
I'm sorry my answers aren't more specific but of course I'm not a doctor and cannot tell you what to do in your case in particular; I hope that the information that I am able to give you is helpful in informing the decisions you make with your physician.
Cheers,
Heiferly.