Any body any tips on managing bi polar and relationships?

[owls123]

I've been with my partner of 3 years and i often wonder when we have a debate (argue) that he put's my questioning nature and alternative opinion down too my bi polar or mental state at that time.  Often feel like people see my bi polar before seeing the real me???

[Alex_X_18]

I have actually had this problem before as well

[jimgreg]

yes they do just that..my women broke up with me  yesterday for this same argument..shes always looking at my illness before the real me...and does all she can to get over on me...well it over now  im kinda relived..

[owls123]

It's not that he directly highlights my illness it's just that he implies it in a round about way.  He has been very supportive of my condition and offered to attend with me to the doctors.  I'm not comfortable with him coming to my doctors appoinments as there few and far between anyway and i feel that's something i need to keep to myself.  Thanks for your feedback guys.  Suppose it's all just trial and error, live and learn and all that.

[bv2666]

It's manipulative.  If it's not the BP it must be PMS.  

People who don't know I'm BP would never guess it.  Of course I'm associating with them when I feel good.. but still.  Your BP has nothing to do with your logic or intelligence.  

I find myself very frustrated and have a hard time emotionally holding it together when my spouse is being an illogical moron... the emotional reaction is the hard part.  Don't let him ever put down your intelligence.

Good luck.

[adel_ezz]

I am 100% with Bastet56. Further if my partner can't tolerate my BP then no need to be my partner. For a husband and wife it's more serious because they may have kids so the boat should float

[bastet56]

if you can't be right, blame the other person's illness - old trick, used often by people who cannot hold their own in a discussion. Good luck

[Twelvesgirl]

I feel the same way, and wish I knew how to better deal with it as well. I will be asking my husband to attend therapy with me, my therapist is going to help us with his denial, his outlook, and our relationship, the way I fight unfairly etc. I can't be of much help on self-help tips though, it seems as though its not something that you need to change, it sounds like a change that needs to be made in him. How to get that across to him I'm not sure...therapy??!!! I'm in the same boat...