This is a great thread.
What I have been practicing is of course the Tao but it isn't just that.
First I had to find a base line to know what it was like to be balanced. I did this by not speaking and trying to become an observor. I was amazad that after practicing this for a little while in treatment I became like a tree. It was like people didn't even know I was there. I knew that I would not be able to maintain this balance for long so I road out the panic attacks and hypo until I could return to the state of non-being. Once I saw what it looked like I could get back there....even if it took several days. There is more to it than that but I have to go for now...
Yep, takes one to know one. Don't disqualify the one thing you do because of the 10 you didn't.
Hey. Thank you guys. I sometimes forget to give myself credit for volunteering on MedHelp. Be kinda cool if we got paid or points to a gift. I don't need any incentive for medhelp though. I have always been a defender of the underdog and the person my friends come to for help.
Shoot. Even my clients in my Real Estate office would come to me with the most intimate secrets. My Pdoc always brought up the idea he thought I should go to medical school and become a psychiatrist. But, I was making more money than he was in my chosen field. Plus science doesn't come too easy to me.
My husband is the one who forever points out how many ongoing projects I have and how far behind I am on all of them. Doesn't help. I just get mad and start a completely new project. If he lives to be 100 I still don't think he'll comprehend the bipolar challenge. And we've already been married for 20 yrs. but I have late onset. My bipolar didn't really manifest fully till I experienced the joys of menopause. That's another thing. I'm not a candidate for HRT. The girlfriends I know on HRT say it gives them tons of energy. Lucky them. But as you know, tons of energy in the bipolar world can easily turn into crazy mania. I've got to keep that bear hibernating. Only let her up once and awhile. I say only someone who fights bipolar too can understand me. And then it seems effortless. ( right Tony?) ha ha. Thanks you guys are the best! Maxy
I'm not bipolar (I don't think) but I have those endless lists too. And I always think I'll be able to accomplish way more than I ever do. So I've learned to give it my best shot and at days end when I'm feeling guilty and overwhelmed I go over each and everything I have done. Its usually quite a bit. Try to do just one thing a day and then give yourself credit for doing it. One thing one day at a time.
I don't know. Right now I'm sucky at the bipolar balance thing.
But I do set goals for myself each day. Most mornings I write in my journal. Lately I've been having trouble getting up in the morning, so the journal thing hasn't been happening (look up sleep in the dictionary and there'd be a picture of my lovely, smiling face).
I set writing goals for myself. I made a list because the amount of work I want to do, and the limited free time I have, was overwhelming.
I do what I can. Even small accomplishments eventually lead to bigger things.
I recently told my son he is no longer allowed to start a sentence with, "Yeah, but..." Disqualifying any progress is easy, in the maniacal idealism of perfection. My first farm apprenticeship, A farmer made a good point that stuck with me, he said. "See that tractor in the field? It can prepare way more work than you can do, always remember, there is only so much you can do in a day. If you worked all day, you did plenty."
All my plans are tentative and I have practiced no-attachment. I don't decide if my plans are enough before the day starts, there are more things to do than is possible in a day.I decide if my efforts were enough at the end of the day, whether my tasks are complete or not. It is often impossible for me to tell if my ambitions and ability line up, so it's easier to look at the end of each day for progress. Has my world improved at all, since this morning, vs., it will be enough if I can only do this much by by the days end. Emphasizing progress over intention makes it easier for me to do however much I can, not however much I think I can or want to. When a day seems to have little or no progress, I ask if I actually did my best. I don't include my intentions in this, only what I do. Yesterday I did nothing, so I felt a little low, but then remembered, I did do something important, I rested, so I can do more today. I am not attached to his each day progresses, as long as there is progress, and there is always progress, just have to make sure I don't disqualify it by the what I didn't do.