Bitchy 'mind *******' psychaitrist

[Delusion]

Okay im seeing my psychaitrist tomorrow a rather evil indian woman with absolutely **** all understanding in her field and a complete imbecile, but anyway i digress :)

I am 20 years old an adult but she treats me like im still a child and has refused to see me anymore unless i bring my mother along to a session which im having tomorrow. I am really worried because my mother doesnt know why im seeing a psychaitrist and i dont want her knowing. My psychaitrist has already broken confidentiality once by randomly looking up my relatives details and ringing them for casual chats and to reschedule MY appointments.

In 8 hours time my mum is going to be told ive been trying to get help for a very long time regarding two psychotic breakdowns, two suicide attempts, chronic alcoholism and bipolar and i just dont know how the hell she is going to react to all of this at once. I DONT want her knowing, she is not a part of my life, yet the doctor refuses to talk to me unless she can speak with my mother and said i will never return to university unless i do what she says... what the hell can i do? Shes breaking rules and if im not mistaken the ******* law and im getting pushed around and treated like a child.

Tomorrow if she acts up and starts breaking confidentiality again ill say ''we're leaving'' but my mother wont follow me out she will stay and this psychaitrist will not say what she is supposed to say which is words to the effect of: ''i cannot discuss details about my patients case with you he has told me not to and its confidential'' she will just talk and give my mum the most god awful picture of what im really like..

Somone put themselves in my position here.. what the hell would you do? Gah..

[Delusion]

At least ive finally been given the chance to try medication thats all ive wanted the last 3 years lifestyle changes, talking, CBT... psychological stuff can only go so far so im glad i now have something that can hopefully help treat the other physical side of things and enable me to function a little better. As long as she lets me stay on the medication route then i will put up with her as neither of us have anything to lose, if they work fantastic if they dont then we have gathered data and learned something for the future.

[zzzmykids]

You do have recourse.  She is violating patient/dr priveledge.  If I thought my pdoc was going to tell my husband, daughters, parents or anyone else my "junk" I would not be able to be comfortable and tell him. BTW, Indian doctor has nothing to do with it, the best one I have had is this one, I am christian and he is hindi and India Indian.
But, back to the point, Delusion.  She has no right to tell your mom anything you have not approved of telling.  I surprise my doctor on occasion by bringing a family member.  He only focusses on me and when they ask a question, he looks to me first to see if he may answer them.  Total and absolute trust.  You deserve this, get another pdoc.  Call NAMI or DBSA on her the state medical board.  Do what you have to and I am not a person who sues, BUT if she even breathes a word of your private information, get a good lawyer and sue her for malpractice and breach of patient/doc confidence.
Lots of churches have psychologists and they usually know who is a good psych in your area.  That's how I found my first psych and I don't have any requirements for them to be of the same religious beliefs just be darn good at what they do.
Sincerely,
zzzmykids

[Delusion]

Possibly but it would get very nasty and a lot i have no proof for its my word against hers and i only have a 3 month window now to get cleared in.. i has 9 im running out of time and i cant have anymore wasted.

[Delusion]

Im still in this area because this is where i live.. I lived in bath/bristol when i was at university but as i said i was kicked out for alcohol abuse and stuff so i had to move home. I live with my mum and little bother again because i cant get a job and cant afford to stay somewhere on my own. I also cant go back to university until im cleared by a medical professional to say im well enough. She says nothing is wrong with me but refuses to clear me so she does think soemthing is wrong with me? Wish she would make her ******* mind up.

[Delusion]

Unfortunately its not that simple, contrary to what Bulldozer says she really is the only 'consultant psychaitrist' in the area and as ive said before i cannot see one from another area. I used to see one in the city but that was because i lived there on my own, after being kicked from university ive moved back home and have probally been quite lucky to be able to see anyone back here again. Ive asked my therapisty person shes called a 'community psychaitric nurse' if i could look into finding a new psychaitrist and she said there really wasnt anything unless i saw some kind of specialist (but there needs to be something percieved wrong before that happens).

As far as lodging a complaint in the hospital/surgery what ever its called that i go to shes more or less the top dog there the only psychaitrist so i think is pretty much in charge so i cant ***** about her to the boss as im pretty sure she is it. Besides assuming i found someone its my word (alcoholic university washout with memory problems) against her word (respected psychaitrist with more years of work than ive likely been alive for) soo yeah i wouldnt be particularly likely to even stand a chance on that one.

Citalpram wise worse case scenario is i have to wait 6 weeks to find out it makes me sick and doesnt work on me then will have to trial something else and hey mabye that wont work either and ill have wasted 2 months, this is really the reason i wish i could have started this years ago because it could take forever.

[ILADVOCATE]

I agree but all psychiatrists prescribe medications that they believe specifically could help. If you suggest it to them and they accept it its because they believe within their arena of knowledge it would work. Many of the medications I've tried recently are new or experimental but I presented my psychiatrist (and neurologist) with clinical information I researched online (or print-outs from questions from some of the ask a doctor forums). At that point they generally inform me that research is so far inconclusive but its safe enough for them to consider. I'll be starting on a new anti-convulsant Lacosomide when it comes out (which should be very soon) and it is experimental for my physical disability but being that many anti-convulsants have mood stabilization effects that may occur too. Its FDA approve for its primary purpose but beyond that there are no guarantees but I accept that. Let's think in a positive mindset (for any medications including standard ones) and if our providers are receptive to us being tried on them after we called it to their attention its because they are open minded and if its still somewhat unknown before they tried me or anyone else on it they had to do a lot of research to find out if it was safe and effective at all.

[Delusion]

The end outcome was the doctor did not break confidentiality about the things i really wanted to keep private like the panic attacks, nightmares, hallucinations, past two break downs and suicide attempts... which im very glad of because my mum wouldnt understand any of that at all. The doctor didnt bring them up because she didnt believe they existed and she still doesnt believe im sick but has put me on medication now due to my mum.

A while ago the doctor i felt suicidal and that i was hallucinating constantly and was under so much stress i kept blacking out or collapsing but she assumed it was ******** as usual. But as soon as my mum says shes worried about me and gives some little emotional plea saying she doesnt want to bury another child (sister died at birth) the doctor gave in and said she would let me trial medication.

I still hate her and dont trust her in the slightest because shes allowing me to trial something purely because my mother begged her and started crying, she wouldnt do that when i have done the same. Shes still a ***** in my opinion. But anyway.. 3 years finally some bloody progress.

Shes letting me trial Citalpram which is an ssri so if it does agree with me then it will 'really really' agree with me. Im on 10mg for a week and im allowed onto 20mg after that and im doing a 4 week trial, i know ive only taken a single tablet so far and have no idea how ill get on with this medication but i really hope she lets me build up to 60mg the maximum, if i can function then i can get back to university and get my mess of a life back on track.

[Twelvesgirl]

So how did this turn out? I hope things ended well.

[bernie40]

I've been sat here thinking after reading your post and went through a whole gauntlet of reactions believe it or not, looking at your pov, your mum's pov, your psych's pov etc  and I came back to the one that matters - yours.

You are an adult, your psychiatrist has no legal right to speak to your mother without written consent from you - she needs your signature.  If you were not in sound enough mind to give this signature then you would be placed in the care of a hospital (I think, but who the hell knows anymore).

Ring the Trust responsible for your area and make an official complaint against this psychiatrist.  She should not be doing this regardless of whether or not she thinks in her own mind she is hoping some good will come of it.  The whole point is that they are bound to confidentiality and she has broken that contract.

There must be more than one psych in your area.  I live in a small town and the Trust responsible for the area I live in has at least 4 psychiatrists and their only the one's I know about.

[jst4shanell]

Maybe she feels like you are in a crisis situation right now and is looking for extra support.  I don't think she is doing this because she is out to get you.  There has to be a logical explanation for this.  Maybe you are sicker right now than you think.  Sometimes you have to trust other people because we don't always have 100% control and it doesn't sound like anyone knows of your situation.  Maybe she is just a crazy lady.  

[Delusion]

She is the only one i can see it seems unbelievably our area only has one but i cant see one from another county its the same with you and states.. i just wish this ******* woman would give me the benifit of the doubt if im lieing, bullshitting and attention seeking then great she has nothing to do but clear me to go back to uni. She either thinks im sick or im making it up she cant have both =/

[ILADVOCATE]

I think you need to see another psychiatrist and they need to leave your mother out of the picture. Before I recovered it worked that way for me and it wasn't healthy to say the least. Best if the person make up their own mind and their psychiatrist work with them directly.