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Not sure what a Bipolar person is?

My girlfriend sometimes argue with me by being insucure, have some type of controlling issues, want to know everything I'm doing on the Social Networks, Emails and over the phone, I know this is normal on girls but mine demands from me all the atention and time, she is very lovely and educated but when it comes to hurt someones selfsteem and ego she can do a lot of that plus her Ego is real high.

When this gets on her she start argue a lot and act agressive, not sure if this is the way that a Bipolar person acts, I even stop our engagement because of these reason and not know how to deal with it, I love her and it hurts me by not being able to know the way of helping her and just don't want to give up.

Is there any advice on this, don't expect to have a perfect word cause I know that's not possible as well to hear just to leave her and move on... But really want to know if there is anything I can do for her to become a better person and leave those fellings aside.

Is this really the way a Bipolar person is?

Thank you all!!
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  Emotionally controlling behavior and aggression can occur in a variety of psychiatric disabilities. It would depend what else is going on as to what the specifics are. The best thing to do would be to encourage her to speak to a therapist and they can see if a further referral is needed.
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Thanks for your response.

That is basibly all, I mean she is a nice person to hang around with a very type of comunication when it comes to be in front of other people I guess everything comes to an end with the "Controlling Part" comes.

I will put it like this... Insecure > Jelous > Possesive > and that's were the arguments come in place and not sure if this is part of a Bipolar person.

What I don't understand is the reason of how a person with a High Self-Steem can be Insecure, It is what it is and to me if I'm a person with a good self steem I would someone without fears or at least they wont be as bad as sometimes those are to her. Went she complaints about any of my female friends saluate me on a social network or if my phone rings which it doesn't happen very often, like I tell het I'm with you and there is no one else.
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That sounds more like just a self-esteem issue to me (which can come along with psych issues, but is an issue in itself).

Some people can appear to have a high self esteem, but actually be incredibly insecure and unsure about themselves on the inside.

It sounds like she's been in a not-so-great relationship and been hurt before. That would explain her controlling nature.

Good luck!
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Thanks for you input...

Actually that is something I always told her since it was all I coulded think about but she always said her marriage was "perfect" and that there wasn't any problems... to me is all BS, becuase of the way she reacts it make everything seem different.

Is real hard at some point, I consider my self as a very mature person that all I see and it matters to me is the way she is and act with me at the time of our relationship since what ever happen before don't mean nothing to me... This is where I go back to the insecure part.

Never been in this type of relationship and again I don't wanna give up on it and this is why I'm looking for ways to make it work and not sure if this is the type of Bipolar person and if there are ways for they to change their perspective and way to be.
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Bipolar has distinct mood swings where she'll be perfectly 'normal' (although I personally hate that word) and then either switch into depression or hypomania (where you have lots of energy, talk too much, are more social, be really irritable, etc.) or mania (hallucinations, really bizarre behavior such as maxing out the credit cards buying stuff on the home shopping network, or thinking that the president is about to visit you to help solve world piece - both of these are real examples not crap I made up).

It does sound like she has a problem though and would perhaps benefit from counselling. If you suggest couples counselling it wouldn't feel like you are ganging up on here. Much more likely she'll go.
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I'm Bi polar and struggle A LOT in the relationship that I am in...it's very hard to be fine one moment and the next your world is ending. She hears your phone ring and thinks it's the worst case possible...all the sudden your cheating, or you love someone more than her ect...the BEST thing you can do is build trust. Not trust like a normal person's relationship but if you aren't really doing anything and you are comfortable with giving her your passwords and let her look through your phone. YOur life will improve greatly! I promise. Though it seems extreme she will realize that you aren't doing anything you aren't suppose to and then all that other stuff will go away. Think about how much less stress both of you will have. However, it shouldn't be one sided she has to give her passwords/phone to you too. Even if you could care less. Hope this helps :)
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