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11066142 tn?1415024744

What should I do, I am blank now

I am 26 years old, and now I am totally confuse about what I should do in my life. I can’t understand which career I should select. I am web designer but I left my job before 2 years after that I haven't done anything. Now I want to come back but I am totally blank. Because there are so many changes in that field and feel depress.
And problem not end year, because of worse experience in my past life, I m scared of people. I feel heaviness around them. I want to run away from them.
Sometime I also want to give up on my thought and end this life. But I suddenly my mind change. Sometimes I feel energetic sometimes I get depress horrible.
I don’t have anyone to share my feeling. I am totally alone.
I try my best to be positive. But nothing goes well.
Please suggest me is there any hope???
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That was what I thought was happening. Family really puts a lot of pressure to do what they want, and often don't consider what is best for your heart and mind, only your physical existence. I love traditional art and believe that those who live simply are often the happiest. Unfortunately, parents often think of their own struggles in the past and want their kids to avoid them. The world has changed since you were born and the struggles your parents had are not the same for you. What would happen if you chose your own path, would you ever be accepted by your family again? Sometimes we have to teach our parents about the new world we live in.  This is faster changing world than ever before in history.  
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He is 28 yrs old by the way.
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"Those who live simply are often the happiest". What a great statement Weaver. One of my sons lives this way and he is the happiest person I know. He has a degree in communications and a minor in art. What a great artist he is. He is so creative! He does live a simple life, very happy and wants little. I'm happy that he is so happy.
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I am still cheering for you to find a way to use your talents and interests. The one positive thing you have shared with me, is your love for traditional arts. I am the same, I like the old ways, but I like to do them in new ways. I sense the confusion is, "How do I do what I want, yet make my family happy too?" If you are bored by the life they want for you, then maybe you can convince them the value of what you love to do. I don't think I could do a job, day after day, and be bored day after day. I would rather be a Sadhu than live a wealthy, miserable life.

On the other hand, you are on a bipolar forum, so, do you think your moods are what is making it so hard to do the job, or is it that you would really rather do something else entirely? Do you take meds, what does your family think of bipolar?
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11066142 tn?1415024744
again I do same mistake. I told you that I want to change my field. I change it. first I think that I can do this its like a challenge but when I start working there it was totally different whatever they mention while joining firm. I choose that job to stop my family and friends nagging. but it become more worst. I really dont know what should I do. I wish I could have someone who can guide me, support me. its really frustrating. no-one understand how it feel when failure come again n again.
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11066142 tn?1415024744
traditional art is nice option, I really enjoy it. but my parents will never allow me to choose it as career option, because it has low pay. even I explain them they still never allow me, they just want to see me as working in good firm at good pay.
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I was reflecting on my bipolar experience in India. I felt like there were so many different kinds of people, I could be as eccentric as I wanted. I tried not to offend anyone, but I felt as if others accepted my path. I don't have family there though. That creates expectations, even if nobody else cares what you do. Imagine how you want to live and seek work that will sustain that.
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Is it possible to live a more simple life and survive living a more ceremonial life and doing traditional arts? Is that what you REALKY want to do?
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11066142 tn?1415024744
coloring, drawing, rangoli (its an art which we draw in festival in courtyards), mehndi (Its an art to draw on palms in traditional ceremony)
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Circus? Rock star? What do you do for fun?
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11066142 tn?1415024744
Thats what I am searching... where should I feel like yah this is my job. I already switch 3 times but I unable to find it. actually what I hate people around me. when I start doing job I enjoy it but within 1 month I feel like its boring.. it feel like as burden...
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It seems like you already know you want to switch careers, but I also know bipolar people get sick of starting over. If you are starting over in the same career and don't feel confident in the field anyway, I can't see how switching careers would be any harder. Is their a filed of interest that you feel confident you could manage?
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11066142 tn?1415024744
Thanks for reply. I am confuse about exactly what should I do. I should continue as web designer or search another way to start all over again because I find it difficult to update myself with current techno. some times I feel I continue as web designer, sometimes I think I should just give up on that and start another field. I fail again and again so I am not confident.
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Is your shifting moods your central problem, or your in ability to work in the current design industry? If it is a simple matter of being out if date, take a refresher course in design. If it is bipolar, take a course of Cognative Behavioral Therapy.hew-?)--
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Is it your shifting moods that are the central issue, or not knowing the new design technology? Your question was about work, so I will assume that is what is bothering you. First, if you had the position you want, would your moods allow you to continue and be successful? I had to change careers and lifestyle to deal with my bipolar, was a hard road, but it has gotten me in a much better place in the long run.

Now, take a refresher course in the field. Ask an employee of the business you want to work for what is the tech you need to get the job. Often times office workers eat and have chai at the same vendors daily, you might try to meet someone in one of those places. Find out what you need to know, then go learn it.  If there are no classes, get into a tutorial online or find someone to help you get started, maybe the new friend you made in researching. Keep seeking opportunity, it will manifest. There are books, programs, UTube videos, friends, neighbors, lots of resources to learn the new tech. I sense that your feelings of hopelessness are the obstacle that stand in your way, not sure though. When you have one of those energetic times, use it to make a friend at your dream place of employment. Research what you need to know and find out how you can learn it. Once you can apply for the jobs you want again. If you know the program, you can buy it and practice at home.

I only spent a few months in India, so I don't know all the resources available. I did see lots of opportunity for those who really put themselves in a place to find them. Even the orphans of Kolkata were so resourceful, they taught me how to survive in the street and get what I needed. Try to focus on potential, what you CAN do, rather than failures and what you CAN't do. That is a good place to start.

I had a computer job in sales, but my bipolar sent me into a bad place and I couldn't keep it. The way I got the job though was, I read all I could about the company, their web site, their links, their advertisements. Then I met some people who worked there and asked all about the business. I applied for the job in spring, didn't get the job, so I went and studied more, then applied again the next spring, then they hired me. My determination and obvious growing of knowledge in their field of solar power, the decided to give me shot. I wish I had dealt more with the bipolar first though, because i would still be working there.

I hope this helps some, I saw you posted that you didn't get a satisfactory reply. Be more specific of what is holding you back, if you are comfortable with it, I will keep trying to help you find solutions. So, go find out how you can learn what you need to know, rather than worry about what you don't know. Keep us posted.
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11066142 tn?1415024744
because of personal issue..i was unable to continue in that field which is lead to huge gap in between my knowledge and current technology. where ever I go for interview i reject because I am not update. I try my best to b update but I find it difficult to understand. I feel like I cant to anything..

so I lost my confidence and hopes....
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11066682 tn?1415026438
Hey, there is always hope! This is my first post, and I have not even had chance to Post about my problems yet... when I saw yours. You can defo come back to be a web designer, depending on what sort of web design you want to do... if anything, you could argue it's getting easier to build websites, especially if you go down the Woprdpress route... why did you stop? I was a web designer until last month, but I quit because I can't keep on top of it, which I am seeking help about. Maybe you need an online business. You can do it!
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