Thank you for your support and advise, both are greatly appreciated. I am definately leaning toward having the chemo due to having positive lymph nodes.
I had a very small tumor and my oncologists allowed me to decide about chemo. I took chemo. I had 4 of 6 doses of Taxotere, carboplatin and Herceptin (cut short due to serious side effects.) I have continued Herceptin for 11 months and have only 2 more doses to go. I am also taking Tamoxifen as a daily pill for 5 years. Chemo was very hard, but I am doing great now. My tumor was 5mm, ER/PR + and Her2 positive. My Oncotype score was 31 because of the Her2 score only. My margins and nodes were all clear.
Because your cancer has spread to the lymph nodes, I would not take chances, but do all I could based on your general health and other characteristics to eradicate the cancer from your body now. If it has a chance to grow elsewhere, you will be in a stage 4 situation, which is much more serious.
Talk with your doctors and keep an open mind to all treatment options. We are here and will support you any way we can. I am thinking of you.