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229538 tn?1300377767

How do you deal with the pain .....

Hello everyone , About a week ago I posted a question about my cat Kaci . She has Feline Pancreatitis . Some days she seems to do OK and others like today I see shes not so well . I know she does not have long . You know people I held my mothers hand at 2:58 A.M. when she passed away a few years ago and just last year the same for my sick brother . I have had Kaci for 16 years and I am crying  like a baby . I am frankly devastated ! Those of you that know me from the other forums know I was a Navy SEAL and have been in 3 combat zones and have dealt with death there and with my family as I said above . Please can someone explain to me why this little cat is ripping my soul and heart to shreds ! The grief is amost more then I can bare . Thank you so much ...Jimmy
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We have all lost fur babies, here. I know how hard it can be to move on from the pain. Maybe in time you will love another fur baby. For now though remember your baby as she was. I'm sure she is playing with Sox, Ashes, Dinah, and Milo. RIP Kaci.

Love,
Rhea and Stardust
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229538 tn?1300377767
Thanks Sara , I wrote you a message . Talk to you soon..Jimmy
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681148 tn?1437661591
I remember when I first lost my Ivory Rose I would sometimes imagine I could feel her curling up on my feet at the end of the bed.  And, for quite a while I would walk by her favorite resting place and expect to see her, because I had her for so long.  It takes us a while to get used to not having our furry friends with us when they have to die, because they are an intimate part of our lives and very special to us.
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495284 tn?1333894042
Oh my god Jimmy, i am so sorry.   I know the pain you are going thru,  Let yourself feel your emotions.  There will come a time when the pain eases and you will smile again when you think of her.  She is playing at the Rainbow Bridge and telling everyone there what a wonderful life she had~~sara
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Thank you for caring ! It means a lot to me . The friend invite and you will see I have a pic of her ...Going to bed at night is the worse when I don.t hear her little feet running upstairs to me...Sounds like you had a great cat too !   Jimmy
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611067 tn?1458591483
I am so sorry to read of your loss.  It has brought tears to my eyes.  When we lose those precious fur babies - it just hurts so much!  I understand and you are in my prayers!  She was very lucky to have a Daddy who loved her so much and took such good care of her.  I agree that in time the pain will ease (but the love will always be there and sometimes perhaps a little emotion will come out) but you will have those warm memories and that will help you more than anything else.

RIP Kaci.  I believe she's running around in heaven.  

Who knows - maybe she'll meet my Daisy who I lost almost 2 years ago to cancer.  She was only 5, but boy I loved her so much and she made such a lasting impression that it seemed like she'd be in our lives forever.  I believe they will be with us forever!  

((((HUGS)))
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874521 tn?1424116797
I am so sorry Jimmy....to lose a good friend is so very hard, you loved her and tried your very best, what more can a friend do?
Losing a loved pet is no different in our hearts than losing any family member, we here understand that deep pain. The pain will ease in the days to come and you'll be left with warm memories to carry with you. RIP little Kaci♥
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Aw, Jimmy, bless your heart.  I am deeply sorry for your loss of Kaci.  Let me share the Rainbow Bridge poem with you if you don't already know it.  I hope it will give you a small measure of comfort during this very sad time.  

RIP Kacy.  Warm hugs...♥    


The Rainbow Bridge Poem

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Author unknown...
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229538 tn?1300377767
Today I lost my best friend . She was with us for sixteen years . I loved her so much and I will miss her always ! See you on the other side Kaci Cat .. Love Jimmy
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2011031 tn?1328285167
About a month ago today I lost my cat Tosh, I cried for almost two weeks straight and more than I did even when I lost my brother a year ago. I know what you mean. Tosh was always there for me, through everything I had been thru, she was 17 yrs old and I knew it was time to say goodbye, I still get all teary eyed thinking about it. I know exactly what you are dealing with.
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Thank you Brit . I am so sorry to hear of your beloved pet..God bless..Jimmy
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2032921 tn?1329668923
Totally, utterly understand, anyone who does'nt must have no humanity in them at all.  My cat had to put to sleep yesterday and I am so identifying with every word you say. (I'm crying as I write this) Take no notice of those people at work - your feelings are very, very,very normal - its them who are not normal if they can't understand you.  Huge love from the UK xxxx
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229538 tn?1300377767
Thank you so much ! It is a comfort to know that people really care . You know you go to work and people you work with ask you Jimmy what's wrong with you ? When you tell them your cat is dying most look at you like whatttttttt ? But there are some who completely understand . obviously like you good people ! Again thank you from the bottom of my heart and God bless ..Jimmy
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681148 tn?1437661591
So sorry for your loss of your mother and the grief you're feeling that soon you will lose your beloved Kaci.  All of us here have lost at least one cat or dog.  They're our family members, so when they grow old, get sick and die, we feel the same kind of grief as when any other family member gets gravely ill and dies.  I think talking about it with like-minded people, like on this forum is a very helpful way to deal with the loss.  Some of our friends in real life may not be pet people, so they truly don't understand the depth of the grief we feel when we lose our dog or our cat, our family members.
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229538 tn?1300377767
Thank you so much ! I am sure I will be taking you up on that when the time comes .. Opus truer words were never spoken ! That is sooooooo true . JMux I too am here for you if you need an ear too . As you see I have been a MedHelp member for a long time and was so busy helping members with addiction problems that I never even knew there was a forum for pets ! Go figure ! It is another MedHelp Godsend ! Peace ! Jimmy
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874521 tn?1424116797
we are all here Jimmy and JMux to lean on when needed, losing a loving pet is undoubtedly one of the hardest things for us to accept, I once read somewhere 'grief is the price we pay for love'...isn't that so true. and I think we all agree those brief years of their love is worth all the grief we suffer when missing them...((♥))
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I am so sorry for what you've been through, and what you're going through.  I recently lost my cat of 14 1/2 years, and I can say it was one of the hardest things I've ever gone through.  Even worse than my divorce.  He'd been with me since I graduated from high school.  It does get better, but I still think about him very frequently, and yes, I still cry because I miss him.  But the pain that feels like I'm being torn up is easing.  Again, I'm so sorry.  
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229538 tn?1300377767
Thank you for your caring reply..Jimmy
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152660 tn?1291755571
Personally, I think that because this kitty has been with you through the loss of your mother, brother and I would also assume that she was with you when you left the military. Those are 3 major life changes that she has been there for you and could have been your rock.  She was there when you were happy, she was there when you were sad.  She listened to you and didn't make any judgements when you needed to talk.  You are losing the most consistent thing in your life.
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