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aggression between a male and female.

you may recognize me from my last post. i have a little cat who's been having seizures. well, we did have this one cat that we rescued from being feral, and he was a tabby. he attacked my little female cat who was having seizures. he did get sick and die, and we went back to being a 2 cat household for a while. she started having seizures a month after he died. when the tabby cat started to attack her, she turned antisocial. then our grey male cat quickly learned from him and began attacking her, as well. the tabby died in january, and we went back to where we were with two cats. they both mourned his death, looking for him, but he still wouldn't stop attacking her. then there was this other feral cat that we had taken care of. one day he got a really bad bite wound and about a month and a half we kept him in after placing a drain tube in his tummy. we kept him ever since. our female cat shows aggression towards him, and still shows aggression towards him to this day, and our grey male cat still decides to pick on her. the feral does not touch her. he sniffs her, licks her, and walks away. how can i get all three of them to love each other? btw, the grey cat and my female kitty used to love each other before other cats got introduced.
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874521 tn?1424116797
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first of all I HAVE TO ASK....do you have your cats all spayed or neutered?
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I sort of lost track of how many cats you had when in all of that and I suspect the frequent changes may be confusing and stressful to the cats as well.  Integrating feral cats into a household with domestic cats can be quite challenging and requires a lot of patience and time, and even then there is no guarantee.  Even domesticated house cats are pack animals and have a hierarchy of dominance.  Each time a cat leaves or newly enters the pack, the deck is shuffled so to speak and the posturing for pecking order can start all over again.  

First and foremost, what opus said.  If you have any that are not spayed or neutered, by all means get that done.  Secondly, you will probably need to keep them separated, at least for a while, and supervise any time they spend together.  When they fight, try to distract them and stay calm.  Yelling at them or showing other agitation only makes it worse.  And during this time, try to keep the pack stable.  That is, don't add any more cats.  Even doing all of that may or may not work.  Some cats just don't do well with some other cats.  You can't force them to "love each other" any more than you can with humans.  The most you can do is train them to tolerate each other by having them accept you as the leader of the pack.
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they're all spayed/neutered, forgot to mention that. the one that he's attacking is not feral, and the one that is attacking her at the moment is not feral. right now i have 3 cats. they did used to love each other, i just wish i knew what's keeping them apart.
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