I had to go through this process and it isn't a good place to be, but as Chairwolf said it is the same person in the mirror. When I was going through all of this it was this forum that helped me through. There are some that are ahead of us who have gone through the process already. We just are not there yet. It does take time. The best way I have accepted Chairi and healing is I say to myself. I know I have Chairi but it won't take me away. I am now after 17 mths getting just a little of ME back. I don't know where you are at in your journey, but I promise if you look deep within that mirror that person will some day smile back at you. This sisuation will make you stronger. It's there we just have to fight a little harder to get it back. Wish you the best. Tomorrow will be a better day. The day I had 2 people say to me "It's so nice to see you have your smile back". It was great to hear and see. It just take some patience.
somtimes i feel so down like i am not going to handle anymore!!! thanks for ur words...i hope by time i get stronger...i was already really sick when i was 13...i almost died...it took me years to get to normal and smile and enjoy again,but i did...hope i will be as strong again...but yes it made me so much stronger...and till now i could help a lot of people...love my chiari family
Sorry, but yes it does seem to be a normal reaction our mind goes through.
Perhaps the more important question selma already touched on. That is 'How to get through those rough spots' sometimes they can last for days. The best way that I have found is similar to what selma suggested. Finding things that occupy 'your' mind, that don't give you enough time to concentrate on what you feel like. By forcing your mind to become occupied with other things it 'can help' to get through it.
BTW- the reflection is indeed still you. It's the stronger side of you. It is the side of you that is fighting to get through each day. Not always pleasant but every day you get stronger is another day that gives you the experience to help someone else do the same.
CW
Hi...it is something we all go thru post op...and as some have pointed out, they needed meds to help them thru this period....but, it is a stage in the recovery period that u should be hitting about now.....
It is typical, and normal, just not easy....I tried to watch things on TV or the web that would make me laugh...Like Victor Borge...he is a funny man...always makes me laugh....
U also can be affected by the meds and drugs used during surgery.... it can take time for it to get out of our system and affects us differently.
Talk to ur Dr..and see if u can get on a mild anti depressant if u feel that is what u need...other wise try to watch funny movies and know, this is not just u, we all go thru this...I did as well.