My soon-to-be 13 yr.old son was caught looking into the bedroom window of my 15 yr.old step-sisters while they are changing after showering! As you can imagine, my husband and I are outraged. My son has been quite a challenge with behavior problems at home and school, and is characterized as passive-aggressive. I just started taking him to therapy (1 session), but next has been rescheduled to 10/27...and I NEED ADVICE ASAP! Needless to say, my stepdaughters feel violated! They don't even want to be at our house, they want to go to their mothers (where they live 1/2 the week). My husband applied something to the bathroom and their bedroom windows so this cannot happen again. However, we're unsure of how to handle. This has devasted me. My son wrote 5 pg letter saying he was just trying to eavesdrop, not look. We are reluctant to believe this (he has been known to lie). My husband, that night, called him an f-ing pervent and told him he'd beat the sh*! out of him if he catches him doing any such thing again. Not sure if my son needed to hear this, of harms the whole situation? He's afraid the girls mother will take them away from him after she hears about this. It disturbs me even more if my son is lying about what he was doing. We've made him write apology letters, but the girls don't want to hear or read anything he has to say. We've also put other punishments on my son...no computer, grounded, etc. HOW SHOULD WE HANDLE? How to we put our stepfamily back together? My son lives with us full time as his father commited suicide 3 years ago this month (whole separate issue). I'm nervous about leaving my son alone in the house with my husband in case he ever loses control and hits him (he's never hit him, or anyone, before)...we've been married 6-1/2 years. My son used his little brothers outside toys to reach up to the window, and sneaks out at dark when he knows the girls are showering. The toys were pulled up to the girls window last week, and my husband questioned it, but my son denied knowlege. Plus access was made to the bathroom window. My son now admits moving the toys to access BR windows (but not bathroom)...but again, just to listen. My gut tells me otherwise. Should I leave my son alone w/my husband tomorrow night (I have to work)??? WHAT DO WE DO????? So far, I've kept him isolated to his bedroom so the girls don't have to see him (other than when they're getting ready for school in the morning), he eats dinner by himself after the girls are done. I can't keep him there though! I'm devasted, confused, stressed, etc. I need advice!