is his behavior normal? or should I seek help?

[Tyrsmom]

My son is 3 as of April 9th. He is very smart, willful, spirited. I wanted all these things. I want to raise a child who thinks for himself, is confidant in who ice is and so far I believe we have just that. However, I have enrolled him in preschool, and they seem to have no discipline. My son is one week the "perfect Student”, the next; I am getting phone calls to come get him. He had at 2 figured out the school has not "authority" over him. I am concerned as we discipline him at home, yet he seems to always be in trouble at school. He understands time out. He just doesn't have the age intellect to understand not to follow his peers in poor behavior. He will do things to get the teachers angry because he is not listening, not co-operating, talking back, etc. I am at a loss for what to do, and left wondering, if it is the teachers and lack of discipline, or just simply his behavior. Worse, I feel, he is getting labeled as trouble maker, so the "negative" attention is on him, as opposed to the positive things he does. He speaks his mind, he does follow poor examples, and he realizes his teachers have no "authority” to do anything to him. The school did break policy and put him time out. Yet, they don't want to do this. I am left with a child who knows the adults around him can do nothing to guide or set boundaries for him, and he exploits it. I am at a loss. I do not know what to do with this situation. At home, he is disciplined, has routine, etc. and most of his behavior and poor behavior at home are things he has learned from school. I am frustrated and just don't know what to do.
Is his behavior normal? should I seek help? or do I just need a new school?

[margypops]

Perhaps it is time to change the school if they cant handle this , it reads as if the Issues come from him being there perhaps a clash with the Teacher, they dont sound as if they are handling it too well, find somewhere else