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4 year old son, need help asap

My son is going on 4 yrs old. He will not listen to anything I say. I literally repeat myself 10-20 times a day on 5 of the simple rules I am trying to get him to listen to me on. I have tried stickers, time-out, taking away toys, giving rewards for good behavior everything and I am literally at my wits end. Not only does he not listen but when he does get in trouble he throws the biggest fits!! Throwing things, crying for 20+ minutes, wont listen when I try to talk to him about whats going on why he is angry and its gotten to the point where he has started hitting me, telling me to shut up and telling me I'm stupid. The most recent thing is being mean to my 6 yr old daughter. As soon as she gets home from school there he goes, doing anything to agitate her. He doesn't listen when she asks please stop or no, and out of the blue he will punch her. Its gotten to the point where I cannot really take him anywhere. The only reason it works at the grocery store is because I have to put him in the basket, if I don't we are in trouble. I just really need some help and direction on what I might be doing wrong. Thank you.


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https://itspsychology.com/child-aggression/
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First thing to do:
1- see if he is a deaf  take him to an ears doctor.
2- if he isn't a deaf he can be in the autism spectrum.( probably it's the case)

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189897 tn?1441126518
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   I guess the question would be what then do you do when he goes back to doing what he was doing?  Do you put him right back into timeout?  And, if so, what does he do?
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I do the timeout right after i say it the first time, what I am talking about is right after he comes out of timeout he goes right back to doing what it is he went to timeout for. And Rockrose, yes his father is here helping me and no his father is not like this.
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If you are repeating yourself 10 to 20 times a day, then all of the discipline you say you used isn't going to be effective.  If your son fails to obey you after the first time told, you need to discipline him.  Repeating yourself isn't discipline and needs to be avoided.  Once you begin disciplining him after the first time told, your son will begin to get the message that he needs to obey you immediately.  Currently, I'm sure that he expects you to repeat yourself and therefore neglects to do as he is told.  You conditioned him to behave this way.  Likewise, you can easily uncondition him.

The most effective discipline for a 4 year old is a timeout.  There is a clear right and wrong way to implement timeouts.  If you would like for me to help you with implementing effective timeouts, please send me a message.
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13167 tn?1327194124
Is his father like this?  Is his father there to help you teach him how to behave?
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