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5 yr old worrisome behaviour

My 5 yr old son sometimes behaves weird. As parents we encourage him when he does something good by applauding him. But along the way he has developed a superiority complex. He is also extremely sensitive. When we have new visitors he gets extremely excited and hides. My younger son who 31/2 and is perfectly well behaved also follows suit. Recently he has also started wetting his bed occasionally. Whenever he is told to do something he prolongs it to the limit that one of us loose our temper. We never hit the kids but maybe he needs a little spanking to sort him out.  He tends to get  alienated because he thinks he is the best and wants other children to follow him. His older cousins don't like him much, although he is extremely generous. He tends to irritate people without intending to. He tries too hard to please everyone.

I must mention that i had a forceps delivery and he swallow meconium. He was subjected to the ICU for 2-3 days. Later i discovered that his fontanelle on the front of the head was missing although the one in the back was soft. His head has been growing normally and he is in yr 1 and is progressing academically according to his age.

However his weird behaviour is worrisome? Is it advisable to see a psychologist or psycho-analyst? Please shed some light on the matter.

In Anticipation.
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134578 tn?1693250592
It is possible to give a kid too much praise, which backfires in its effect as they really understand is not merited and it makes them anxious.  Stop comparing him (favorably or unfavorably) to others, for one thing.  Even favorable comparisons set up the feeling that one is being judged, which of course is productive of anxiety.  I would talk to a counselor about messages you are unintentionally giving in your attempts to make him feel good about himself.  Don't spank him, it will just add to the problem.  
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13167 tn?1327194124
I having a hard time picturing your son,  affiy.  When you say he irritates everyone and thinks he is the best and wants everyone to follow him,  that doesn't match with he's very generous and tries to please everyone.  

It's like you're describing two completely different behaviors.  

Can you give examples of times he tries to please everyone too much,   and examples of when he thinks he is the best?  

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