If you truely and honestly love your daughter, tell her how she hurts you when she does those things and if you feel like crying..Cry..even in front of her. She will have compassion and see that you are hurting inside just as much as she is. You both will become closer bonded and more like best friends coping through the same thing. I went through it with my daughter. I finally broke down in tears and crying... I could not stop. She seen that I was hurting too and she knew then that she was not the only one feeling the way she does.If you don't get to her heart and her feelings now.. she may start cutting herself and blocking you out by the time she is 11. My daughter did all of those things because she was hurting inside and did not know how to cope,but wanted me to know somehow. Around 11 yrs old..she will start to be more independent and want a friend along with a mom. :) God Bless you both!
Well she reminds me of my cousin , have you asked her to explain
these images to you , or have you taken her to a therapist
Children's imaginations are very vivid and complex
Maybe they could get her to talk about her anger and help her
release her problems and things.
One thing you can't do is give her 110% of your anger and energy
epically now that she knows she can basically do what ever
and she knows your disability and you can't do to much about it.
At 9years old , your the parent and she is the child
Toys Games TV , kids love that stuff , discipline
is easy. Dont allow it , she wants to get a toy or clothes
has she been good ? No dont buy it
eventually she will learn mommy wont tolerate bad behavior or anything.
Her dad isn't that big of a help , I can see which makes it worse
because she wont get the same discipline back and forth.
In 3 years she'll be 12 and wanting to do what every 12 year old does
The attitude will get worse and so will your job as a mom
but as a parent you have to do what you have to do to protect
your children and yourself. Do what you need to do.
My mother had a big brown leather belt when i was younger.
After my 3rd spanking i had the fear of god in my eyes from it
i dont know your out look on hitting your kids
but it works.
But theres a fine line between discipline and spanking
so dont get carried away