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4365244 tn?1353443000

Active and hyper 5yr old Sweet little girl.

My daughter is 5yrs old and is in Kindergarten. Yesterday she started her 2nd school since Sept. I made a transfer from one school to another in less than 3 months because 1 her behavior in her 1st teacher my child said she didnt like her that she HATED her.. omg.. I don't like when she expresses herself with those words, I tell her is not nice and Hate is a very bad word. Any ways 2nd reason was because Im starting a new job that requires more hours and earlier shifts for at least 4-6 weeks so I need to have someone pick her up from school. Today my sitter picked up my child and is her 2nd day in her new school and again I have complains about her not focusing in class, walking around in class, not wanting to pay attention. I really don't know what to do. I don't want to think My child is ADHD and needs to see a therapist and let alone be under medications. Im pre-school she was never like this. She loved her classes. she has been in school since she was 3 in day cares, she was always so well behaved. Now she doesn't want to do anything that the teachers tells her to do. :(... sometimes I want to give up but I can't Im her mom and need to have some sort of orientation. What can you recommend me,. My child is always jumping and running doesn't stay still only if im there... to be able to sleep she needs me there by her side if not she will not fall asleep. But lets say I will leave the house and not be home she will fall asleep on her own. also my childs always is talking incoherent things.. sometimes I think is she going coo -coo.. she makes up alot of things and talks lies. I dont like that I wasn't raised like that. I have an older daughter 13yrs old shy of 2 weeks and Its the total opposite of my youngest. :(...
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189897 tn?1441126518
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   First, if your child does have ADHD - you do want to know because it changes how you deal with her.  Second, it does not mean that she goes on meds.  In fact, the new guidelines stress working on behavioral modification first.
   Next, it is difficult for a child to go through changes.  Many kids when they start kindergarten and leave a situation where they had been very comfortable for several years have problems.  Your child has just been uprooted twice in a short period of time (not your fault).  Give her time to adjust.
   Do talk with her teacher and see if she can be allowed to wander around a bit.  Some kids need to do this.   Do check out SIDS.  I can also send you lots of info on ADHD if you need it.  But, for now, I would get to know the teacher.   Show her you want to be involved.  Just be aware - most of what needs to be done will have to be done at the school level.  Kids of this age need immediate reinforcement to change behavior.
   Oh, and kids of her age don't talk lies.  They say whatever comes into their minds.  Maybe when she hits about 10 she can preplan what she is going to say - not now.
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973741 tn?1342342773
Hi there,  Ugh, kindergarten can be such a hard year for some kids.  I really think a variety of factors can make it difficult.  It is often the first time that there are REAL expectations put on a child and some have a hard time adjusting to that.  It's new, it's crowded, etc.  

I think that it never hurts to have a child evaluated and especially if you feel her behavior hinders her either academicaly or socially.  My own son has something that looks a lot like adhd but is different ---  called sensory integration disorder.  It can have many of the same symptoms but is treated through something called 'heavy work', occupational therapy, and techniques to slow the nervous system.  

We do a lot of physical activity with my son and it helps him remain calm while at school.  And then he has some go to things he can do AT school to slow his nervous system back down.

If you would find it helpful, google sensory integration disorder or sensory processing disorder and see what you think, if it applies at all.  SPD is a good web site.  Let me know what you think.  Sensory kids are not medicated but there is a lot of focus on slowing the nervous system, working on other issues (IE: some kids have a hard time with pencil grip/handwriting and while at school, they'd rather act out than face the challenge this activity is for them, so Occupational therapy will work on fine motor and handwriting), and behavior modification/coping skills.

good luck and let me know what you think.  
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134578 tn?1693250592
If you think she is going coo-coo, kidding or not, it's probably time to get an evaluation done.  Talk to the school's principal, and see who they recommend and how that kind of thing is done.  She might not have ADHD, there are other conditions a child can have, and no, they are not all the kind of thing where you medicate the child.  What you need most is guidance.  If she has (for example) sensory issues, there are a whole raft of things you can do working with her at home to settle her down.  You just need to know what they are and to do them consistently.  Talk to the school and get some guidance, and move on from there.  Don't delay.
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