Why do my siblings have an obsession with butts?

[The_Oldest_Child_in_This_Crazy_Family]

My Mother's Fiance has two children, a seven year old girl and a 5 year old boy. They don't have any special needs and they show the normal psychological behavior of children with divorced parents, such as a quiet behavior and and a little bit of fear when it comes to opening up or talking to us. They don't cause any major problems while they are here with us, but the one thing that we have noticed is that they seem to have an odd fascination, borderline obsession, with anyone's, um,  gluteus maximus, if you will. Whenever we are in the pool, or even here at home, they will pass by and grab, or spank our butts. There are also times where we are all laying down on our parents bed watching T.V. and they will chose to lay right on our cheeks. My sister and I have always told them to stop because we don't like to be touched that way, whether it is an a joking matter or not. My Mother and her Fiance on the other hand, never thought anything of it and they would let it slide.  We thought that it was just the way they play around. Now, we have all noticed that they do it a lot, and they enjoy doing it too. Their joy is the equivalent to telling them that we are taking them to Sea World. It is really strange because it  happens every time they have an open shot. I mean one of us is doing the dishes, BAM! *** grab, or we are just talking to each other and BAM! We get spanked repeatedly. I don't know if it is normal for them to behave that way or if it is a problem. If there is any way any of you can help, that would be greatly appreciated.

[Nighthawk61]

Ps. I think that you are very sweet to call these little ones your siblings, before your parent's marry.  That says a lot about your character. How old are you? I couldn't tell whether you are a sister or a brother? Whatever you are , keep being the great big sister or brother that you can be. Always reach out for those you cannot reach out themselves. This is more than about your being uncomfortable, this is about your being protective about these little people.

[Nighthawk61]

For some reason the father is accepting of this behavior, and so too is your mother. I find it odd that your mother doesn't mind. Obviously that's not the way that she raised you, and i would think that it is not normal. I believe that most people would feel that their privacy is being invaded.  Is this a case of a father and now potential step-mother teaching their children and step-children to disrespect boundaries? I mean it sound like it. If this is a taught behavior then this is probably just a 5 and 7 year old way of coping with wanting to get close to the new potential siblings, because this is all that they know.  If I were you I would talk to your mother very seriously about why she is promoting behavior that disrespects a person's physical boundaries.  You're right. It is very odd behavior, but more so of the parent's than of the children.

[Nighthawk61]

I guess it would help to know how long this has been going on?

[margypops]

humm have they been encouraged in any way ..by anyone , has a joke been made of this behavior.It you are uncomfortable with it and it sounds extreme, what is your reaction when they do it, could they be getting mixed messages ?