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Agressive Behavior

I have a 3 year old son who is being removed from his daycare because of aggressive behavior he has been displaying. He will throw toys and hit his classmates and teachers. The director also says that he doesn't focus well on one task and that he is all over the place and does not sit and seem to be able to just calm himself down. He does not listen well and will yell and be agressive over little things that shouldn't bother him. This has been going on for 3 months and the teachers and I have tried everything and not sure what else to do or what could be causing this behavior. He can be the sweetest, loving boy and its like he just snaps into this behavior. Please help..
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We tried the stickers at school. Like if he didn't hit during the morning, he would recieve a sticker on a calendar and that seemed to work for a little while, but they wouldn't keep up with it at the daycare. I can maybe talk to her about it and see what happened to them. I can do stickers at home and see if that helps him, it might. He really seems to like stickers. I will try that monday. I only have next week to get him to stop hitting and throwing toys before he gets kicked out on the 1st, which doesn't give me a lot of time. I need to tackle the problem head on and get them to realize that we haven't tried everything, but I think it put them over the edge when he started hitting the teachers and nothing was improving on his agressive behavior. We were actually on vacation about 2 weeks ago and when we got back, thats when he started lashing out at adults, so it got worse. I will let you know if the stickers work at home. Thanks! :)
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My son was having the same problems at the beginning of the year , i think the most important thing  we did was to tackle the problem together with his teacher she created a chart divided into the different activities of the day for example snack time/ play time/circle time and use the happy face or sad face depending on his behavior she writes every little incident then when he gets home he has a chart right next to the door with the stickers for happy faces and if he gets any bad note is a no movies/tv day (he does not care about toys), if he gets 15 stickers a week he gets a fun place on weekend. i think your son may be a little too young,my son school does time out so he does get discipline on the spot too,another thing i do is for example if the note says "hit mark with a block" it is easy to ask what were you doing when that happen? and what did mark was doing ? usually the answer is mark was taking my blocks etc with this information i do a lot of role playing to teach him how to react different , i think for some kids social skill don't come naturally they have to learn them ,practicing over and over, i have to tell you that my son has have 3 weeks with out any bad reports ,in the September i used to get 4 of 5 days bad notes and also i had to pick him up 1 time for hitting a girl, i know 3 weeks is not long time but for me ( i am sure you understand ) is very long time just now i am starting to not to get nervous when i hear the phone during the time he is in school, i forgot to tell you i got very serious  with any aggressive behavior at home  is time out no question ask, i hope this help...
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Well its like even if I reward him like giving him a sticker or truck it only lasts a day and then hes back at it the next day at school. I told him if he keeps it up I'm taking a toy away a day..well..there are no more toys left..Its like I can't get through to him or like he doesn't care. I've asked him why and he just keeps saying "because". I'm at the end of my rope trying to get him to stop throwing toys and hitting people..I do work 8 hours a day but I spend from the time I come home to his bed time at 8pm with him and playing with him. He was sent home today because he would keep throwing toys and he threw one and it hit a child in the head and left a mark..I dont' know what to do anymore...
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wow...I have three grow kids and and one that is 9 and girl when things like that happens you need to spend a couple of hours with him only him....take him to a restauraunt and eat take him to the park...and ask him why do such a good boy do bad things. ask him is someone bothering him...and maybe he will open up...my kids did...sometimes you need a one on one with your kid just the same as a woman needs attention from a man... do take him out even if you have to give him a piggie back ride..he will get over it..or if you work he could just miss you a lot...give him a picture to help him through the day. and when he behaves say we can do what ever you want... it worked for me and they got over the tantrums.
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