My son will be 3 in two months. Recently, my daycare communicated that my son does not talk, AT ALL, at daycare. He is vocal at home, but not quite up to speed as his peers. I have had him tested by several doctors etc recently and find out through evaluations that he does have a speech delay, and another set of psychiatrist says that he is delayed in all areas. Our state has a program that will work with a delayed child until the age of 3 for free (which doesn't matter, I'd pay for it) in the daycare setting, at our house, or both. I have gotten the ball rolling on that even though we will only get a few weeks and then we'll have to switch to an OT somewhere local, but not in our familiar setting. Ok, my son has been going to daycare since he was 8 months old, He has never liked it. Some teachers I can tell he likes more than others, but he doesn't communicate verbally which ones they are. His classroom now, he has been in since June, so four months. He hates it the most. Every morning is a struggle. He cries in the car, walking in, when I leave him etc. The daycare is supposed to be "one of the best" and I'm lucky to have a spot, but I can't take it anymore. I feel like part of the reason he is delayed is because he doesn't feel comfortable there. He is completely withdrawn there and doesn't participate. At home, he is happy and fun. The daycare we use suggest dropping them off quickly and they adjust better than if we hang around. I understand that works 99% of the time, but my son is the 1% it doesn't work for. I asked this morning if I could come in an read story time, or visit for lunch or stay all day. I don't care, I'd whatever it takes to make his day less hard for him. I haven't heard back from the lady to tell me if that's ok. A few weeks ago, the OT that will work with us until my son is 3 came to evaluate him at daycare. I stayed with my son until she got there and was there when she got there for a little while. He seemed so withdrawn. I kept playing with him and he was starting to come out of his shell. I was hoping that he would talk so the teachers could hear him, but as soon as he was starting to get playful with me, the teacher grabbed him to put him on the potty. Then he cried a lot because I wasn't there. I had to listen to him screaming while he sat there. I know that my presence isn't making it easier yet, but I feel like if he sees that I trust the daycare, he will learn to trust the daycare. Any advice? I want to just keep him home with me. I feel like him being mute 8 hours a day is changing him for the worse and my maternal instincts say hold my baby close. I also sometimes feel like the teachers don't like me. We live in a nice area and i may be wrong, but I just feel they are always standoffish. Not nurturing in any way at all.