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Bully/aggressive behavior in 5yr old boy..HELP!

I am really in need of some advice.  My 5 yr. old son has a very aggessive, controlling behavior around other children.  He wants to always control the activity and gets angry and mean when his friends don't comply.  He has major impulse control issues and doesn't take "no" and takes whatever he wants.  We find him stealing food and hiding it in his room.  He also constantly invades peoples personal space with hitting, grabbing, jumping on and he always laughs when he gets in trouble and likes to mock.  It is constant.  At pre-school when a child has a party, everyone in the class seems to be invited except our son.  He has 2 boys that he has been friends with for years and last year the other moms basically kicked us out of their playgroup and openly excludes us.  Part of me is furious at these parents and the other part of me understands.  I hurt so much for him because he has a huge heart and is exceptionally bright and outgoing.  We have tried so many different things such as time-outs, spankings, change of diets (feingold), major discussions about social behavior and responsibility.  We have books about being a good friend but nothing is working.  He starts Kindergarten in August and I want this resolved so he learns to make friends and keep them.  Please help me....we love him so much.
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Seek professional help.  I agree with the above posts.  There may not be a single answer. Things that will help may take 6 weeks to see results.  Please know I'm not dismissing behavior modification, but I have seen children who behaved this way and became a different child with medication.  You mentioned a change in diet.  I have done that for ADD/ADHD, and it was effective.  It did take 6 weeks for it to work.  You have many options to consider at this point, and I don't want to overwhelm you.  If you are interested in more info., leave me a message.
Good luck and God bless
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You name a whole list of things that you have tried.  Maybe the problem is that what you try as for as disciplining techniques, youre not enforcing it long enough to see results.   Hes conscious of what hes doing and I think that rules out physiological reasons.  

Any 5 yr. old that laughs and mocks when in trouble is obviously laughing at you and your punishment methods.  This is a behavior and lack of discipline problem and it did not start at age 5, it began years ago when he was allowed to get away with little things.  Now you've got a lot to do to improve it from this point
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If you have really given behavior management with time outs and rewards for good behavior a go, and the pre-school he is in is trying to discipline him and its not working-- then its time to take your son for an evaluation and get some professional help.

He could be reacting/ acting this way for many different reasons, but if you have really tried to change his environment positively and its not working, then you have done all you can do without professional intervention.

I suggest that you get in touch with his dr and get a referral to a child psychiatrist who can evaluate him and give you some concrete steps to take.  If he is really being excluded socially then the earlier you intervene and get him some help the better--
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