CHILD AND PARENT HELP

[jackie613]

MY GRANDSON IS 6 YEARS OLD, HIS DAD DIED WHEN HE WAS ALMOST 3. HIS PARENTS WHERE NOT LIVING TOGATHER AND J WAS WITH HIS FATHER MOST OF THE TIME UNTIL HE WENT TO BE WITH THE LORD.WE DO EVERYTHING WE CAN TO NOT BRING UP ANYTHING TO MAKE HIS START THINKING ABOUT HIS DAD. J IS VERY AGGRESIVE WHEN HE PLAY. HE'S ALSO THE VERY SMART AND VERY SWEET. THE
PROBLEM IS WHEN HE GETS MAD HE HITS HIMSELF AND BITS HIMSELF.TO DAY HIS TEACHER TOLD HIM THE CLASS WAS GOING TO HAVE HOMEWORK THIS WEEK-END AND HER STARTED HITTING HIS HEAD ON HIS DESK AND BITTING HIMSELF ON THE ARM. SHOULD HE SEE SOMEONE ABOUT THIS?  HE DOES NOT HAVE A REALLY GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS MOTHER, SHE ALSO IS VERY AGGRESSIVE. HE ONLY WANTS TO STAY AT MY HOUSE.  I MAKE HIM BEHAVE BUT, WE TALK AND GET ALONG REALLY WELL. HE IS STILL AGGRESSIVE WITH ME IF HE DOES NOT GET SOMETHING HE REALLY WANTS.
THANK YOU , HOPE YOU CAN HELP


This discussion is related to Children hitting themselves.

[peppermint12]

I also have a grandson who is going to turn 6, and he hits himself,or bites himself. And has done this since he was about 2 or 3. The thing is that he is now doing other things also, like acting like he's gonna choke himself or cut himself. I just look at him in awe because I've never seen this kind of behavior in a child before. And I just don't know what to do about it.
He lost his Mother 9 months ago, who was my daughter, and he also always wants to stay at our house. His Father is also very aggressive. It's not that I don't disapline him when he needs it, but not in the way his dad does.
I just need to know if he will grow out of this in time or is this just the beginning of something more serious. When I read your story it was like reading my own in the opposite scenario. If anyone out there has any suggestions I would appreciate the help. He too is very smart and very sweet and he too will get aggressive with me if he doesn't get his way.

[91004]

My son when he was almost 2 did this it sounds like he is having a hard time dealing with his emotions for instance when he gets mad, he doesnt know how to vent and let it out so he bites and hits hisself he needs to learn better ways to deal with anger. Find creative things to try like at school asked to be excused and go to the bathroom and breath or scream. Or at home go to his room and scream or hit his pillow. I was watchin  a new show its like nanny 911 and they suggested this pillow that they hit and let it all out. I would try it and see if it doesnt work he may also need group therapy or counseling it is hard growing up with out your dad and by what you have said he pretty much dont see his mom either this is a lot for a young child to deal with on their own.