Happier times, when to leave diaper nighttime

[lis51]

Hi Just to let everyone know things are getting better. I have mentioned my son´s separation anxiety in other posts; today so happy to say he went to the market with my mom and was very happy when he came back. Still working on anxiety but working a lot on boundaries at home. I´m giving consequences and following through, J has been better with little sister (whom he was constantly hitting and bothering). We´re praising him, giving him a rewards chart, and noticed he´s so much better with his sister when he´s happy. My husband is backing me up in every dispute I have with my son which has also increased my authority with him. He´s even eating better and giving him the choice of having a time out or stop doing whatever he´s doing has also worked wonders. I´m proud to say today my parents and grandma noticed he was very happy. They even asked if he took a long nap, I said no, he´s just plain happy.

Question is when is it OK for a child to stop wetting himself at night? J has been toilet trained since 2.8 yrs. old, but using pull ups at night. A month ago (he´s now 3.8) he started using underwear at night but most of the time he wakes up wet. What should I do?

[stayathomemommyof2]

I really dont know how to answer that because my 3 year old still wears pull ups as well. My opinion however is to stop fluids at 6 and if you wake up diring the night, wake your child to go potty. A friend of mine just stoped putting a pullup on her daughter the same age as my son and ater a few wet beds her daughter quit wetting the bed. I think every child is dif. and it depends on the child when they are ready to loose the pullups at night. Some children actually cant help it, or have a medical condition, as for myself i continued to wet the bed until i was 11. Yeah embarassing right, and still until i was 16 would occasionaly dream i was on the toilet and wet the bed. In other words only you and your child will know when he is ready.

[Sandman2]

   I am really glad to hear things are working for you and him!
Others, I am sure will have better answers.  But the quick and easy is to limit fluids before he goes to bed - say no fluids (ok to brush teeth, etc) two hours before bedtime.
   Also, does he have a night light in his room and the bathroom so if he wakes up, he can easily find his way to the bathroom?  It is kind of scary in the middle of the night.  Maybe even give him a cool LCD flashlight that he can use to light the way.  I know that if none of these ideas work, then you can buy sensors that go off when he starts to wet the bed, and that is supposed to help (or scare the heck out of the kid).
  Finally, realize that until last month, he didn't have to worry about peeing at night cause he had his pull ups on.  If he is a sound sleeper, its possible he just hasn't made the connection yet.  Will be curious to see what others have to say.