How long have you and your husband been married? Does he have any other children? I find this behavior very strange. Not just the physical aspect but the way he babies her. How does she act when dad is not around? Does she interact with other children her own age? Does she ever have friends over or go to friend's homes? As a mother of a 9 yr old I don't think her behavior is very age appropriate. There are many ways dad can show his love for her other than making her completely dependent. I agree with the previous post that he is giving her a completely unrealistic view of the way the world. At the age of ten she should take some responsibility around the house. His enabling her is not healthy for her development. You need to sit down with your husband and explain how you feel without focusing so much on the creeped out part. You need to express your concern that he is not helping her develop into a mature, self-confident and independent young woman. It is time for her to grow up and dad to find a healthier way to show how much he adores his daughter.
I would imagine it is pretty miserable for you that your husband does not work with you on guidelines for her behavior. So - she does not have chores around the house? Does she even pick up her own dishes? Doing everything for a child teaches a pretty unrealistic view of the real world. I find kids need to have responsibilities as soon as possible - awfully hard to teach as the years go by.
Best of luck
Just a good affectionate Dad, it is actually the opposite and he sounds great with his child it seems sad you have to say to him that he wants to be Dad of the year,it would be a good idea for you to examine your own feelings as perhaps you are feeling some jealousy about his good fatherly behavior with his daughter, You have hit the nail on the head and you need to see it for what it is, he can still have feelings for his daughter and have feelings for you,it doesnt take it away from you, you cant spoil children enough they respond to affection and attention, Join in the Fun with them....I dare you ,next time they are cuddling ,leap in ,you may enjoy it, how about you take her somewhere nice for some 'girl time" make her your friend ,you will be forever glad you did..Trust me,.