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Is it normal for a 12 year old boy to wear his sister's panties?

I don't know why my son does this but he does. He'll go into his sister's room and they'll talk and then he'll take a pair of her panties. I want to know is this normal for a 13 year old boy or does he need help.
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Yes, you should find help. However, be careful who you take them to, many therapists are sold out to the LGBTQ+ Agenda and as such do not counsel properly.
Sadly the world wants more sexually deviant children to exploit.

Certain autistic children like the soft feel of the different fabric, however, there are male undergarments meant to help if a child is having sensory issues.

Then, don't be stupid and assume the woke mentality barrage that they are gay or trans that society is pushing, They could be experimenting or they could be curious... 1 or two times DOESN'T mean gay/trans. SHEESH!

For most young boys wearing girls' underwear is a fetish. Talk to a child and try to find out why they are doing it.  


Lead by asking open-ended questions why?  
Is it Uncomfortable to wear your normal underwear?  =sensory issue.    
Is it because you get excited wearing your sisters' underpants? = fetish.

Trying to conform them to an alternate lifestyle because of society could lead them to a path that could harm them in the long run.  Many Trans people are now regretting their decisions especially when they were done at an early age.
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Yes he can it’s something you should handle by getting him his own girl clothes so he does not have to wear his sisters
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He could be trans and uncomfortable in the underwear he uses, or he could just like feminine clothing. He could also just like wearing panties, which is fine as long as they aren’t someone else’s. You should speak to him about it. I hope this helps a bit.
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I think that your question "Does he need help" might be overly alarming compared to the situation. Some kids don't like the feeling of some clothes and prefer the feeling of other clothes. If his sister's underwear are lighter weight or silkier, he might just be reacting to that fact alone. There are men's underwear made of kind of silky fabric (it's not silk, but nylon); my husband has a few pair, and he likes them because they dry faster in the dryer. If what is worrying you is that your boy is wearing gender-inappropriate underwear, you could try buying some of the silky-feeling men's kind and giving them to him and see if he wears them exclusively. (That is, if you don't just ask him straight up. It would be a way to test the situation.)

But even if what it is that he likes about his sister's underwear is specifically that they are female underwear, even then, I don't know if "Does he need help" is really the question. Some people are into this kind of thing, and it is generally considered harmless. You could read up on the topic, I guess it might be under "cross-dressing" or there is probably some other way to find it in the literature. Or you could talk to a therapist. The question is not "What is wrong with my kid?" but more for you, yourself, so you can understand what's possibly going on for him and learn to accept it. If it's inherent in his nature, you would do him no good to treat it as "wrong" in any way. You're better off treating it as a quirk, and learning to live with it in an accepting way. Better for your relationship with him, anyway. :)
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ps --  You are sure he is actually wearing the panties? (He might just be using them on his hand when he has some "me time." My son cut the fingers off a rubber glove for that purpose once.)  Anyway, if you know he likes girls' underwear because he likes to wear them, in your shoes I'd probably just ask if he wants me to buy some for him, and leave it at that. Only if I suspected that the thrill is in the stealing of them, would I worry. There are fetishists for whom the stealing of women's panties gets more extreme, and obviously the law doesn't smile on that. If anything in your talking with your son leads you to the conclusion that this is the kick he is getting, you might have him talk with a therapist. But if all he is doing is wearing them, it seems a mild enough quirk.
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Does your daughter let him have the panties? I guess he likes wearing girl's underwear. Some people are like that. I wouldn't worry about it.
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The best thing to do if you are really curious about it is to simply ask him. No shaming. Just let him know that you noticed and that you are a bit surprised, but that you were wondering what it is about wearing the underwear that he likes? Only if he wants to share. If he doesn't want to share, leave it alone. Be cool about it.
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I feel the best thing to do is talk to your son see how he's feeling if he feels he's question his sexulaly or gender it's important for him to have support and love. This way he can talk and possibly explore his feelings without judgment.  This will help him to understand that he's not alone and it's not a bad thing.  In turn it will help mentally as well as you understanding what he's going through.  It my be he just simply likes the feel of them and probably will just be a phase. If it's more it might be an idea to speak to GP and ask for a referral to CHAMS who can offer both you and your son support and advice.  The most important thing is that he's supported and know that your on his side I can imagine how hard it will be for him to come to terms with at such a young age but help is out there for you both.  Good luck with it and hope that this has helped you and your family.

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I'm going to look up CHAMS, I haven't heard of that before.  This is all really thoughtful and good advice! thanks
CHAMS is the child and teen mental health trust they deal with everything from eating disorders, autism, mental health issues and helping children discover sexulaly. I've just thought if your not in the UK then your doctor will have a similar service that they can send you too. Please remember that you doing a brilliant job and there's nothing wrong with your son he's a unique beautiful person who will make you proud what ever happens I wish you all the luck in the world Xx
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In a word, No.  

That's the answer to if it is normal and the answer you tell him as to whether or not he is allowed to do it.  Borrowing other people's undergarments is an invasion of privacy.  Therapy would be a good idea to explore the impulse.
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Agreed.
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