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Lying, Pornography & Hiding Objects in Strange Places
My friend's 12 daughter displays behavior that is extremely disturbing to me, yet he seems to be in denial about the severity of her issues. She lies constantly about insignificant things without cause or reason. She's been caught on several occassions viewing pornographic material online. She exhibits minor bullying towards other children at school and most recently, she hid three pairs of dirty underwear in a often used drawer in my bathroom. Please keep in mind, this latest incident was so disturbing to me becuase the bathroom is one my brother uses, and the drawer contained his personal objects (comb, toothpaste, razor etc).
She has been diagnosed with ADHD and takes medication for it, but her behavior doesn't seem to be only associated with that.
What is the cause of this?
She has been diagnosed with ADHD and takes medication for it, but her behavior doesn't seem to be only associated with that.
What is the cause of this?
I,m guessing but,maybe she's not sick and the medicine she's taking is what's making her behave that way.
I just stumbled on this post and dont have a good answer for you. One thing I did find odd was that there were THREE pairs of underwear in the drawer. If she visits as infrequently as you say that would mean that if SHE put them there then should would have had to have brought extra dirty pairs with her (so it would have been premeditated).
RockRose,
My brother moved in with me temporarily after his home was foreclosed on. My friend's daughter only visits my home with her father occasionally, like once every other month. She was here Saturday night after we took her to a haunted house for Halloween. Generally she's only in the living room with the two of us watching television or playing computer games on my laptop. This night was no different except for leaving her panties in my bathroom drawer.
My brother moved in with me temporarily after his home was foreclosed on. My friend's daughter only visits my home with her father occasionally, like once every other month. She was here Saturday night after we took her to a haunted house for Halloween. Generally she's only in the living room with the two of us watching television or playing computer games on my laptop. This night was no different except for leaving her panties in my bathroom drawer.
Well with him we have a difficult situation he goes to my house 5 days one wk and 2 days the next the other days he goes with his dad. It alternates each week. I think it is hard on him and he has a hard time adjusting.
He is very difficult. He bites, hits, pinches, throws things ext. His brother is 5 and lives with me and he beats the **** out of him. My 5 yr old is 45 punds the youngest who is 3 is 30 pounds you would think the oldest could hold his own but cant because my youngest is just so relentless. He keeps on. Today was nothing but him torturing his brother and I try everything timeouts, time in his room, taking toys, nothing works. Now his dad whips him. At his dads he is around his older cousins. Who I think the mother lets them do whatever they want. They go shoot BB guns by theirselves no adults they are all inside. His dad really just lets him get his way unless it gets on his nerves then he gets a whipping. He loves it there though. He would rather stay there then with me so I don't think abuse is the problem. I don't even think he thinks he is hiding it does that make sense. He will go get dressed or something and I will be gettin socks for them the next day and will find his dirty socks and will get them and wash them or his house coat and boots were missing for awhile and one day about a week later I found them in my closet. He never said anything.
He is very difficult. He bites, hits, pinches, throws things ext. His brother is 5 and lives with me and he beats the **** out of him. My 5 yr old is 45 punds the youngest who is 3 is 30 pounds you would think the oldest could hold his own but cant because my youngest is just so relentless. He keeps on. Today was nothing but him torturing his brother and I try everything timeouts, time in his room, taking toys, nothing works. Now his dad whips him. At his dads he is around his older cousins. Who I think the mother lets them do whatever they want. They go shoot BB guns by theirselves no adults they are all inside. His dad really just lets him get his way unless it gets on his nerves then he gets a whipping. He loves it there though. He would rather stay there then with me so I don't think abuse is the problem. I don't even think he thinks he is hiding it does that make sense. He will go get dressed or something and I will be gettin socks for them the next day and will find his dirty socks and will get them and wash them or his house coat and boots were missing for awhile and one day about a week later I found them in my closet. He never said anything.
I have a friend whose daughter began hiding dirty clothing in 2nd grade. She was going through a TERRIBLE time at school, her teacher was one of those awful people who should NEVER be a teacher.
Anyway, in counseling the mother was asked a series of questions, including has your daughter recently begun to hide her dirty laundry. Wow.
I've since then seen other examples of this in kids who are being bullied or abused, they hide their laundry.
It's hard to tell with your son, whether this is kind of a power play thing with him - like some kids hide from their parents to make their parents search. Are there other symptoms in your son that makes you suspect he is being bullied - i.e., fear of going to a specific place, timidity in general, etc.?
Anyway, in counseling the mother was asked a series of questions, including has your daughter recently begun to hide her dirty laundry. Wow.
I've since then seen other examples of this in kids who are being bullied or abused, they hide their laundry.
It's hard to tell with your son, whether this is kind of a power play thing with him - like some kids hide from their parents to make their parents search. Are there other symptoms in your son that makes you suspect he is being bullied - i.e., fear of going to a specific place, timidity in general, etc.?
Rock Rose,
What do you mean that when they hide laundry it is often a symptom of wanting to hide themselves. My son does this who is 3 yrs. old. Only his clothes and he is the only one who knows where it is. I will look for days trying to find it and will eventually find them. Or he will put them in his drawers but won't tell anyone.
What do you mean that when they hide laundry it is often a symptom of wanting to hide themselves. My son does this who is 3 yrs. old. Only his clothes and he is the only one who knows where it is. I will look for days trying to find it and will eventually find them. Or he will put them in his drawers but won't tell anyone.
When children hide their laundry, it's often a symptom of wanting to hide themselves.
This case seems a little bit different, because it doesn't seem she "hid" it, rather, put her underwear somewhere where it would surely be discovered and unwanted. Almost like putting them in the refrigerator or somewhere else you really don't want to find someone else's underwear.
I don't understand your situation, though. You and your brother live together, and also this girl who is your friend's daughter lives there also?
This case seems a little bit different, because it doesn't seem she "hid" it, rather, put her underwear somewhere where it would surely be discovered and unwanted. Almost like putting them in the refrigerator or somewhere else you really don't want to find someone else's underwear.
I don't understand your situation, though. You and your brother live together, and also this girl who is your friend's daughter lives there also?
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