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My Four yr old daughter

My daughter is four years old, has learned one life for 3 years of her life just to loose it (due to a relationship gone bad), gained a new and wonderful life but all new people. She was at home with me up until about 6 months ago when I started working and now she has started at a home daycare with her two year old sister. I was a victim of child molestation, so I have always made sure she knows no one touches her there and if anyone does she is to say no and tell anyone around her.
Well, one morning about two weeks ago she informed my boyfriend and long time friend that a 9 year old boy touched her she she at daycare. My boyfriend got me imedietly and had her repeat herself to me. She told me all about the event, every detail. I had no idea what to do. I didn't know if she was just making something up to get him in trouble. She tends to live in this fantasy world. She just makes up elaborate stories and they can be complete lies. It is awful. But I didn't want to accuse her of lying because I want her to know I'm here for her no matter what. so I talked to the daycare lady, who talked to the kids and the little boy admitted to touching her while they were playing a game. So they were talked to and understood it is not good.
Gabby has been acting out very badly. She gets into everything, years it apart, breaks it. Whatever you can think of. You constantly have to have an eye on her or she will get bored and do something she knows not to do. She is ride, disrespectful, thinks she is the boss of adults. It is horrible and embarrassing at times, because I know she knows better. She can be perfect when she wants to be. Down to the T.
Today I picked her up from daycare and I got a horrible report. Gabby was in the bathroom going potty and left the door open. She was asked why and to close it and my daughter said that the same little boy told her to leave it open when she went potty so he could see her she she. And she insists she is telling the truth. My mother and her daycare provider are suggesting its time for counciling. I hate the thought of it coming down with me having to do that. To me she is so perfect. I don't know what go do or how, now to take care of this new problem of her falsely accusing people of doing very bad things to her that could really get people in trouble when they didn't do anything. But at the same time, if something is happening to my daughter, I need to be behind her. Either way, I'm stuck and horrified. Please help :/
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13167 tn?1327194124
This is a VERY odd story.  

The way this is written is very,  very unusual.    It's all very odd, but the high point is when you call a 9 year old molesting a 4 year old a "little boy".

If this story is true,  you are reporting it in the most unusual way I've seen.

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I'm not understanding?? is a 9 year old not still a little kid? Like I said, I'm at a complete loss.
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13167 tn?1327194124
groat,  it might be helpful for you to completely reread your post as if you are a stranger to the situation,  and see what it sounds like.

She said the boy touched her,  and then asked to see her use the bathroom.  He has admitted the first incident,  and the second sounds totally believable to me - there isn't anything in your post to indicate she's not telling the 100% truth.  Why are you accusing her of making up wild accusations and suggesting she needs counseling,  when at least the first incident happened,  and the second probably as well.

The way you describe her as manipulative,  and lying,  and then go on to say to you she is perfect,  it's kind of all over the map.

Has anyone suggested at LEAST "counseling" for the 9 year old who for some reason keeps getting access to her?
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The problem is my daughter is very manipulative and lies all the time just for the simple fact that she does want them in trouble. She has admitted to lying the second time. She simply learned something like that would get him in big trouble and tried it again. and I believe you were right. This wasnt too clear. My daughter has a history of being sexual... she has humped herself to sleep since she was a baby. I never paid any attention to it thinking she would grow out of it but it has turned into her having her two yr old sister touch her to her playing games with boys and trying to have them do it. and this little boy (who has never had a problem with this before) just happened to play along with her game. Im not saying it was right, Im defistated by the whole thing. but it was taken care of. You just have to know my daughter... She is not the average four yr old. My mother says she is hyperactive and has behavioral issues. and the daycare says they have never had a four year old with such problems. and of course Im going to say my little girl is perfect. She was my first baby, she is my princess, and I know she knows how to behave. She chooses not to. Now Im just trying to figure out what kind of help she needs and why she acts out in such big ways.
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