My delayed son - from 2009

[LondonDad]

I am writing here as I get so many questions about my son who is 8 this month. He had receptive and expressive language delay, he lined up cars, he didn't acknowledge people, he didn't point and all those other things. But today he is in a good school doing well and his issues are starting to go away.

This is the advice I have been giving to other peoples son's who message, please God, people be calm and patient - each good develops in their own time - get help, yes, but don't trust everyone. God knows best!

My son's issues were more around independence, some fine motor skills and his overall conversational language. He now has only a few issues but still a little way to go with his conversational language compared to his peers - he is 8. The good thing is he is developing as normal - he is just delayed maybe by a year.

His big childhood issue was glue ear so be sure to get your child's ears checked out. My son started his words a week after he had grommets put in aged 3 and has been playing catch up ever since.

What we did to help him further was to look at NATURAL REMEDIES. We did a couple of things and they improved my son almost immediately.

1. Started him OMEGA Fish Oil.
2. Treated him as normal and stopped worrying about him.
3. Looked for a school with smaller classroom sizes so he got more attention
4. Used lots of relationship building excercises and joint tasks to keep him involved
5. Never spoke about him in front of him

Remember this:

1. Try being closer to him, copy what he does and see the reaction. Keep doing this.
2. Give him a purpose in life, ie less TV more interaction with humans, give him tasks
3. Buy the book Communicating Partners by James McDonald

Keep it natural and relationship building, don't let him zone out on his own.

My son God willing seems fine now and getting better and better and he didn't have a single word aged 3. You just have to let them go with the flow; evaluate every 6 months not every day - and ENJOY the little fella - you will miss these days one day.

Good luck and God willing things will be fine.

[JadeWella92]

I'm so glad I came across your post. I came on this site for something completely different but I'm so glad I saw this. My nephew is 6 years old. My parents have raised him and his 2 years old half brother. My sister unfortunately has several mental illnesses that challenge how she parents so my parents have had custody of these two beautiful, smart boys since they were born. Aidanot  (6 year old) was diagnosed with this about a year ago. We also believe he has social anxiety. He is currently attended a Montessori school. Which is hands on learning. My parents have paid quite a bit of money for him to attend this school. The Director and owner of this school said there would not be more than 10 children in the class. There ended up being close to 28 children. They also said they would work with him and they were told everything about what Aidan has and how he learns. Nothing was kepterodactyl secret. On the second day of school the director said he wasn't ready for 1st grade. My mother was very upset because sue felt like they had given up on him already on the second day. They get out in May of 2017. My parents had to schedule a meeting just to see how Aidan has been doing. Again, the director said that she felt that Aidan wasn't ready for 1st grade and that they did not possess the "resources" he needed to learn. I am 24 years old and I myself have a 3 year old little boy. He is very smart for his age and my mother constantly says in front of Aidan how smart my son is. I try to work with Aidan in the subjects that the director says he needs help in. We have a lot of workbooks for his grade and age. When I work with him he does great. I will show him an example of what he needs to do and then he will do the rest on his own. I just do not understand this school. When he comes home I see that the writing on most of the papers is not his handwriting. It's the teachers. I feel they are doing the work for him and that isn't helping him. It's doing way more harm than good. Basically, my question is am I doing the right thing by helping him? And should we take him out of this school?

[Rachael1967]

This sounds like Autism to me of so it's a life long disability which requires Lang therapy Ot therapy and social skills training and Sensory therapy and Auditory integration therapy horse riding therapy and for some vision therapy been their has you have my son is not doing all that well at 20 better luck to you both

[pizzaisgood_]

I love seeing this because it's basically me. I didn't actually start talking until I was 4 years old and I didn't read until age 8. Now I'm a freshman in college. What they ended up figuring out with me was I just didn't want to talk. I bit people instead, do not know why but I did. Anyway, it took hard work but I eventually caught up with everyone my age. Actually I even score in the 97th percentile for reading now. Children are so much smarter then we ever give them credit for.

[usdad]

Wow, thank you so much for your post. in your 2009 post, you described our son almost to a T as well as my/our reaction to what was going on (so depressing feeling). Your post is exactly what I needed to put things in progressive and it was great to hear about your songs progress (congratulations to him and to you guys).

Thanks again

[mimifree]

Hi,

Thank you for the update, it gave me hope and made me smile today after a long time.

My son is 30 months old now and most of the behavioral aspects are very similar to your son when he was 2.5, except my son's language is a bit more advanced but has only few imaginative/creative play; sometimes pretends talking to phone or pretends saying goodbye to me at the door, or puts his daddy's shoes on ...

this is such a relief knowing that with efforts and in time my son can do just fine...

good luck and thank you again :)

[jjaysmum]

Hi, I came across this blog and I would like to say, God bless you and your family. May God continue to give you strength and patience, but most of all lots of love and health. my nephew who will be turning 4 soon is also going thru this. I also have faith.