For the last two years or so, my 5 yrs olds behavior has been getting progressively worse. Usually he will do something wrong, ie, jump on the couch. The first few times, I will give him a warning. And I swear he doesnt even hear me! He keeps doing it. I say calmly, "You need to go sit in your room in timeout for jumping on the couch." he will refuse to go. So next I try, "if you do not go to your room, I will have to tv away for the day." He will still say no. Then I have to PICK him up, and place him in his room. Then, in less than a minute he will come back out, and say, "Im not going in my room. I dont care!" By this point we are both pretty frustrated. "If you do'nt go to your room and take your time out, you are going to get a spanking and then you will still have to go into your room and take your timeout." And he will come out again! And I will spank him, and he will laugh at me! Which of course, just makes me angrier. So I start the whole process over again! Sometimes it takes three hours before he will stop acting this way. And usually in the middle of that, he starts yelling things from his room, like "I hate you" "I hope you die!" "I want to die!" "you are a stinky butt!" (Or whatever he can come up with.) and is throwing things down the hallway!
After this whole thing is over he will apologize and tell me how much he loves me and that he is sorry he was bad. Alot of times he also says, I didnt want to do it, my brain made me. I want what is best for my son. Am I doing something wrong? I had him at 14, but always had help. I am married, and my husband has been in his life since he was born, and is a great father figure. My mother has bipolar and most of my family have some type of depression. Also, he doesnt see his father (he is in jail for drugs and domestic violence). And I believe his father may have ADHD and a learning disorder. PLEASE HELP! My sanity and his future depend on it.