Should we worry

[anadad]

Our daughter has reached a point where she seems to think that she is "not good enough" when she makes a mistake. My wife and I have not said anything negative, as far as we can remember, to enforce such thinking. She just seems to come up against a frustration wall sometimes. She always gets encouragement, but my wife has told me that she seems to be hitting herself when she gets extremely frustrated. I have not witnessed this but am increasingly concerned. She has just gotten two new brothers, but seems to be really great with them and we make sure that she is involved and also gets mommy and daddy time. Could this just be a phase or should we take this a step farther?

[anadad]

Sorry,

She is 6 1/2 years old

[RockRose]

anadad,  you don't say how old she is,  but many kids are "driven" to compete and get extremely frustrated and angry when they don't succeed.  

It sounds like she is a bit of a perfectionist,  and can't stand it when her efforts don't turn out perfect.

If she's still trying - and not shutting down,  but putting a lot of efforts into her work,  I think that's just her.  You might have some nights of screaming frustration over homework and projects,  and screaming and pulling hair when she doesn't make 100's on tests,  but I really don't know any way to change a perfectionist.

If she's still basically happy and trying,  she's doing well.