I have two children, a boy- 6 & a girl- 4. 6 months ago my son knocked a girl at school down & tried to bite her between the legs, but instead bit her inner thigh. We watched a dinosaur movie a few days before, in one scene a t-rex knocks another dinosaur down & starts to eat, starting with upper thigh. Believing this was his imagination roleplaying the scene, we apologized to the family thoroughly, punished my son for biting & explained the severity of his actions. (he has always been a biter but after 18 months it was on VERY rare occasions - approximately once every 6 months to a year)
Months after the school incident, my husband & I separated, the kids and I moved countries to be closer to my family. We have been away from my husband for almost 3 months & in the last week and a half my son chose to lure my 4 year old niece away from a family gathering for 2 minutes. In this time he asked her to remove her clothes & lie down, he bit her in her 'private' area. She immediately came to tell her mom, she was visibly upset wondering why her mom hadn't protected her & why would my son do that? All the adults were devastated & shocked, none of us has dealt with anything like this.
Since the incident with my niece, my son has not left the house & has increased his drive to touch himself & female nakedness, especially with my 4 year old daughter. I tried to speak with my son about anyone touching his 'private' areas, taking pictures, etc., but he says no one ever has. I explained it's not healthy for them to touch each other or see each other naked, and it's become nearly a full time job. My son & I are waiting to hear back from a counsellor about my concerns but due to the increase of interest from both my children I don't know if we can wait.
Should I be doing more? Do I need to stay patient? Should there be punishments? My kids don't know anyone here but their cousins (who they can no longer visit), I can't separate them to slow this process down.