Hello!
Along with my eldest son, I have another son who will turn 6 this week.
We had him in 3-Day preschool this past year to get him acclimated to the ideals of kindergarten and he has had kind of a rough go of it.
He gets upset when he doesn't get his way, so to speak. At school, it's much worse - he will cry/scream, throw his shoes, throw his food (that was today because the teacher gave him water instead of juice). He has progressed since he started pre-school last year but now that spring/summer is here... he isn't having it.
Mind you, he is very opinionated, stubborn and likes to his things his way. He will needle you with questions until you break down and it can be a battle. He will tell us that we said one thing (so he can get his way) when we didn't say these things. He also likes to try to make "deals" or pit my husband and I against each other, which NEVER works to his advantage.
All of this has really started since he attended pre-school. He is going to stay in pre-school for one more year because we don't (and the teacher thinks also) he isn't ready for kindergarten on a maturity/emotional level.
My mother usually is the care-giver during the day and I think she spoils them both, though says she doesn't. I think if it was up to my mother, kids would be running free, doing art, dancing and being very non-conformist.
Now my eldest has ADHD, anxiety, sensory disorder and possible autism. We are working with the schools and local advocate groups right now to help him out.
Typically, my six year old is very sweet - does his chores when I ask him to (get dressed, make beds, brush teeth, comb hair) but he likes to still be the baby. He likes to cuddle and tries to sleep with me. He hates to clean up the playroom and usually won't and won't even help his brother clean. He makes eye-contact some of the time - but not when it's serious / in trouble and not when we are face to face, too close.
Okay, so the questions... Is this normal???
I'm not used to this due to my eldest who I was told was too impulsive, too hyper, etc.
Do I put him in pre-school next year (5) days a week or stick with (3)?
Does it sound like ADHD?
Help, please.