I would say yes as he seems to be influenced by your parents a great deal, it would be better if he visits them rather than living with them, make sure you have fun times with him, taking him out and playing games.When he is rude it may be best not to respond but ignore it, if he hits there should be consequences like a time out or a privilege removed as that behavior is un acceptable .
I agree, it's time to get out on your own. First off, it sounds like your parents are very involved in his care which is wonderful, but if you both live with them and they are involved, I think whom to listen to could probably get confusing for him. The mom/grandma rolls getting mixed up perhaps? Also, if it were me, I would not be happy with my parents wanting to adopt my child. Unless you are somehow neglectful or an unfit parent (and I don't think that's the case or anything), those really should be the only reasons for a change of custody. I mean, your his mother. That's terrible. So I wonder if he is sensing the tension that must exist between you and your parents, or perhaps even witnessing arguing or conversations around this issue between the two of you? If it were me, I would be moving. I know being a single mom is tough, but you can do this, and I do think it's probably best for both of you. Just my opinion.
Thank you so much for taking time out of busy life to answer my question.
I quesss I just wanted to air some of my feelings without sounding too much like an ingrate. I would definitely take a definitive step in the coming year toward moving out while maintaining the loving relationship between my son and his grandparents as best I can.
Wishing you and yours a very happy and healthy 2012!
That's a great attitude and definatly the way to go in my opinion, best of both worlds ..Good luck and a Happy New Year to you .
As I said in my post I think you are doing the right thing for you both good luck