WHATS THE DIFFERENCE

[tiathaishay]

My daughter is 3 yrs.old and i want to know why it is that she is this perfect little girl with her dad and a total brat with me?

[mperry1369]

i have 3 kids  that are like that they do not grow out of it my daughter is almost 9 and  it's not that i spend all day with her i work a lot and my husband gets home before i do so he's the one making sure they do there homework makes them dinner and all the other stuff. he has no problems with them but when i'm home all tehy do is fight and they won't listen to me at all nomatter what i do. I think that it has more to do with guys in general are more strict and when they say something everyone in the house listens my husband has talked to the kids and told them to be the same way with me as they are with him did no good. i would love to give you an answer but i think dads are jsut scary no matter how nice they are and what they do they have that tone of voice that just makes kids listen.

[rilbrianne]

Same here, our 4 yr old adores her daddy but is pretty good for me, now.  

Girls naturally have a special bond with their daddies though.  He is the first male rolemodel that she has and his behavior and the way he treats her will make a huge impact on how she seeks a partner in the future.   You always hear about how " that girl never had a father and now she seeks attention from any guy that will look at her"... it's so true.    

It's good that she has a special bond with her dad but talk to your husband and tell him that she's not very nice when he's not around.  It needs to be a partnership, he needs to stand up to your little one and firmly (but lovingly) tell her that she needs to listen to mommy when daddy isn't around.  She also needs to know that even though she's daddy's little girl, mommy and daddy work together as a team and the rules apply no matter who she is with.  Good luck :)

[twokids19]

My daughter (& son 2 1/2) is almost 4 & is the exact same way w/ me.  
Angels when Daddy is around & brats w/ me.  Greengeeny is right, it's because they spends all day w/ us.  I never thought of the idea that they have to be good so Daddy will come back, good point Greengeeny.  I am hoping that this will change soon.  Sorry I couldn't offer any suggestions, but I thought I'd post to let you know your're not alone.  Good Luck.....

[greengeeny]

Does she spend most of her time with you or her dad?  My guess is that it is with you.  Daddy goes away to work, or just is doing other things.  Mommy plays with me all day, cooks for me, does everything...right?  Well, the problem is simple.  She knows that no matter what she does, you will not leave her.  You will still be there bathing her, taking her to the park, making lunch, arranging playdates.  But, if Daddy is gone a lot, she may not feel the same way towards him.  She may feel like she has to be especially good to make sure daddy will come back.  Your love for her is effortless, but if Daddy is gone a lot, she may feel like she has to earn his.