disobedient hiper kid

[keas]

my 3 years old daughter rarely listen to me. she starts her days with "NO" and ends with "NO". i sometimes shout or request or just ignore, rarely a slap, timeouts, everythings but if she is in good mood, she listens but most of the time she suddenly start shouting, and say NO loudly and strongly. she scatters her all stuff all day. never picks it. dont wear colthes. if i want her to take bath she will not, but i dont want her to take bath like she took it yest, that she will do it. never weat socks or anything. cry too loud and abuses. misbehaves all day, hits me and her younger sister. still not trainned for poty stuff. i am giving her traing since one year cont. and lot of other problems. if i shout or say somethig strongly to not do she give me back same way. i dont know what to do. she dont sing rhymes oallr counting etc. always take that thing if doesnt not even belong to her , she start insisting to take that. she talks to boldly, start acting when i timeout. try to give me timeout

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

You need some support and guidance. Ask her pediatrician for a referral to a pediatric menatl health professional who can help you with some straightforward parenting plans. Also, it's imprtant to have your daughter evaluated for the presence of emotional disturbance. So don't try to manage this on your own.

[theislandbaby]

I think your daughter and my daughter were twins separated at birth LOL!

Mine is almost 4 and starts each and every morning with a meltdown tantrum.  Not to mention at night as well.

I know my daughter uses it as manipulation.  It is like clockwork!   I can't even really take her out shopping because of the possibility of a meltdown.  And she is LOUD.  Blood curling loud.  

Time outs, nothing works.  Ignoring just aggrevates the neighbours.  I am at a loss as well.  I have no idea what is going on.  

I can completely empathize with you.  Have you checked into a disorder called ODD?  It is called Oppositional Defiance Disorder.  I am having my daughter checked out for that.  Her Pediatrician a year ago, said to see if she gets worse as she gets older.  Well, she isn't any better!  

Maybe speak to your doctor about it.