inappropriate touching

[tubbyboy123]

my 11 year old son is visiting me for the summer, sharing my bed he attempted to stick his hand down my pants while i was sleeping and im almost sure i caught him masturbating. i am terrified about this whole situation and i know i definately need to have a serious talk to him about what is and isnt appropriate without shutting him down to where he wont talk or listen to me. he will be sleeping on the couch for the rest of his visit but i need help from someone in starting this conversation because it seriously needs to happen! someone please help me deal with this!!!

[tubbyboy123]

thanks for the advice, we did sit down and had a very long talk about what had happened and about his curiosities as he is coming into puberty. We also talked about what was appropriate and what wasnt. he was very scared and confused about the changes and feelings he was having and cried while we were talking but it was a very good talk and we obviously needed to have it so hopefully things will be clearer for him now and he knows now that the door is open if he has any questions. i did explain to him that if i wasnt his mother he would have been in a lot of trouble and he better not try that again on anyone period! i let him know that i still loved him and wasnt mad but stressed how serious this could have been if it was some girl. he is a very sweet, emotional, loving boy and is very embarassed about the changes he is going through but hopefully i made it a little easier for him to come to me! thank you!

[grannienannie]

sorry to hear that...you shouldnt wait to comfront this situation with him...you should sit him down and ask him did you purposly try to touch me? cause you dont want to think that,but it made you uncomfortable...and if someone has been touching him that lead up to that...tell him your his mother and he can tell you anything...but when it come to a parent child realationship he should have more respect for you..tell him many girls will be comming towards him in the future and respect for you starts  at home first...if he dont respect you as a woman..but mostly as his mother...a girl will never accept him...and he just cant go around touching...tell him if it were someone else...it will have been reported...and that is another worry for you why you decide to comfront him about it...I hope this helped a little...