thank you for your reply,i dont have him do any care taking but for exp i took a bath the other day my 8 yr old and 4 yr old were watching tv i asked him to keep an eye out on him well my 4 yr old pooped and my 8 yr old knew it but decided to go into the other room and play instead of coming to tell me so i got out of the bath and my 4 yr old had poop everywhere trying to get it of his hands by the way my 4 yr old has mild right sided cp. im i expecting to much from him as to tell me and looking out for his brother i was the oldest of 3 siblings and mother hen is it just cause im a girl. and if im expecting to much then thank you for telling me i can do better with him now
You should not be expecting him to act 'like the older brother'. There should be no onus on him to adopt any caretaking role in relation to his younger siblings. He is only eight. My sense is that your expectations, not his behavior, may need adjustment. All that is reasonable is to expect him to act in a nice manner toward his siblings.