out of control

[lala087]

I am 22 and I have a 6 year old son who is so out of control and he just cannot listen if his life depended on it it’s like he is always out in left field some where if you tell him to do something he will not do it never ever and sometimes he will just repeat everything you say I don’t know what to do I really don’t iv tried sending him to counseling we have tried some exercise I have done just about everything I’m waiting on an appointment to put him on meds and I hope it helps. He is so bad I cannot take him anywhere not out to eat to a store a movie I can’t even take him to get gas because he is so bad and cannot listen he is all over the place looking at and touching EVERYTHING. Whenever I do take him out people just look at us funny and sometimes they say stuff about how bad and I even hear some people call him dumb or a retard. I cannot even get a job because no one will watch him .I need help somehow some way I just really need help I’m starting to lose my mind I don’t know what to do anymore I just don’t like I had said I really need help nothing I have tried has worked. Please please please please help me and my son. I talk to him about why he does bad things and asks like a very bad boy and all he says is I don’t know sometimes he will cry and tell me he wants to be good he does not know why he can’t do it may be he cries and says that to get away with something? I really don’t know all I know is that we needed help badly. It is getting to the point where I no longer have any friends because they can’t handle being around my son his behavior is staring to affect my refashion ship with my boyfriend and his kids there are getting annoyed with his bad behavior. I feel bad for my son because I don’t think he knows what he is really doing and how it’s going to affect others he always asks me why we hardly go out or why no one wants to play with him for more than a few minis. When he plays with other kids he really gets overly hyper and he just does not know when to stop and when he gets like that the other kids don’t like it so they no longer want to play with him. what do i do

[benjimom]

first of all, I'm sorry things are so bad, it must be terrible and you must feel so out of control.  Is he in a school situation?  How does he do there?  

I think it would not be a bad idea to get him evaluated to make sure he is okay and it's not behavioral or mental or both.  YOu just never know and at this age you want to be careful.

HOw long has he been like this?

[specialmom]

Is he in school?  He should be by this point . . . and if so, how is he doing there?  If his behavior is so bad, I am sure they are addressing it.  They would do an evaluation to see if there is any reason for the behavior such as a developmental delay or a psychological issue or if his speech is delayed, etc.  So, where are you /he with all of that?

Also, just a side note-----  they don't medicate kids for being bad.  He would have to have a documented, diagnosed medical condition.  There is a process to follow with that and it is important.  If he is misdiagnosed, he will then have the same behavior as well as side effects from the med.  

What does your son do right?  Some kids will seek negative attention in order to get any attention----  and they can go to great lengths.  He may also have something going on with regards to his processing (nervous system).  Some kids touch often because they are not aware of others space or they need to touch in order to process.  Some kids have auditory issues in which you think they aren't listening but in actuality they just aren't processing what you are saying.

So, there could be things going on beyond his control.  Also, how do you discipline?