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1007532 tn?1332767926

tantrums and 2 yr old

my 2 yr old is is in the crying phase she cries everytime u say no to her and i mean cry like someone is killing her, the tantrums are unbearable, i am stay at home mom of 2 and it gets frustrating ... she will not eat does not want to drink her water/milk she hates the high chair so I have to feed her else where when she does eat.... yelling does not work its like yelling at the wall when trying to correct her... total meltdowns when she does not get her way......and NO is her favorite word... my 9 mth old has a high temper also, stiffens out when u try to feed her the bottle no matter how hungry she is... but she is still better than her sister...  It is so frustrating they both are very strong willed and head strong!!!!! 1000% of the time....

at least I know it not just my kids who are going through this "phase"....
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1007532 tn?1332767926
thanks im taking her to see a nutritionist specialist to see what can be done to help her eat better.
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189897 tn?1441126518
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   Yep, Mark is right.  You say NO and she starts crying put her in a timeout and tell her that when she stops crying she can come out.  She will go nuts for awhile.  Let her cry.  The change will not happen overnight as she has learned how to get your attention and it will take several weeks to change that behavior, but it will change.  You might want to get the book - "SOS Help for Parents," by Lynn Clark, to see how this system works.
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5914096 tn?1399918987
If you are yelling at her, you are not disciplining her.  Discipline is what your daughter requires. Regarding the crying, my question is how much of your attention do you give her when she cries?  The best thing to do when you daughter cries after being told no is not to give her any of your attention.  If you starve the attention, she will find it useless to unproductive to cry.  Only provide her with your attention when see behaves appropriately.  Yelling at her when she cries is like oxygen to a fire - it will simply grow out of control.

If she can feed her self, why are you feeding her?  If she chooses not to eat in defiance, then she simply doesn't eat.  You should not be feeding her.  Trust me when I say that she will not starve to death.  She will simply eat when she is hungry.  However, she should only eat during meal times.  If she is defiant during a meal, she simply goes without until the next meal time.  Soon enough, her defiance at meal time when disappear!
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