what do i do with my 4 yr.old son?

[broukie]

my son just turned 4 april 17th. i was married to his father and just got us away from him about 2 yrs. ago.since birth my son has watched his father badly physicaly and mentaly abuse me.he also went thru mental and a little physical abuse from him,himself. :( however,for the past year now,my son has gotten worse and worse with his behavior! he's now to the point of screeming at me,threatening me,hitting,spitting ect... and anything ive tried doesnt faze him! my psyciatrist told me after watching him a few times that he cant diagnose him yet but that he hugely shows signs of ADHD and that i should maybe find a natural remedy to help with his extreme hyperness and unable to calm down do think ect... does anyone out there have ideas for a discipline plan? a natural herb that works along with .. please help,please!!! i am out of ideas and cry alot because i feel like im helpless!

[broukie]

Thanks for the advice! We are def. going to try this! I seriously hope it works! Also what is "tile tea" ? Thanks for your help!

[pantspooper]

Yes, there's a few things you can try. Balance his diet, avoid sugars and sweets, give him tile tea,  create an schedule to keep him busy, and if he acts out you have to punish him, there's parents that cry if they have to punish their kids, but, if you don't, you'll cry later when he gets in real trouble. For really hyperactive kids, the time out simply won't work. If he hits you, spits you or screams at you, spank him and use the 3 warning technique. If he does it three times in a row (after you warned him) you get rid of something he really likes like a toy or something, not for a while, for good. That way he will know you are in control and you are serious. That way he would know he loses if he acts out. AND of course, give him a lot of love, talk to him, try to find out what's important to him (don't assume or guess) and GET IN HIS WORLD. If he plays cowboys, you have to become one. If he knows you are his true friend he'll open up to you.