whats wrong with her?

[isabelleluis1]

i have a 3 year old who never wants to talk with girls her age she only likes to be around my exfiance friends and i want her to be around girls her age and not drunk 20 year olds

[isabelleluis1]

okay thanx for the advice hazel is in the ER right now

[specialmom]

Yes -----------  go to the hospital immediately.  Any time a baby can't breath------- call 911!!  

[Ashelen]

hospital. whenever it starts happening, take her to the ER IMMEDIATELY. do not waste time waiting for answers on the forum, your daughter needs medical attention. if the doctors tell you they don't know what's going on and try to send you home, put your foot down and demand they give you answers before you'll leave. this is your baby's life...you have to stand up for her.

[isabelleluis1]

can u plz help me i have a emergency my 3 year old has a mysterious desease that makes her blue and cant breath followed by bloody nose and im woried

[penswriter]

if you're not getting responses in another forum...it's probably b/c nobody has answers.

[isabelleluis1]

thanx for helping me with my hazel issues but plz awnser the question about my sister in the rhynoplasty place

[specialmom]

Well,  I agree with Margypops. I wouldn't want my 3 year old around a bunch of drunks.  Problem is--------------  sounds like her dad does.   Unless you feel the environment is unsafe, what can you do?  I would hope that you have good communication with her dad so that together you can decide what is in her best interest.

Many kids do gravitate towards people older that treat them like they are special and honestly, at 3 . . . she is just developmentally starting to get out of parallel play (playing along side another, but essentially alone).  So, in a year, she will have greater interest in kids her age.  

But it sure sounds like you need to work out some things with her dad.  good luck

[margypops]

It may be a good idea to make sure she is not around drunk' 20 year olds ....why does she have to be around friends of an ex fiance ?

[Ashelen]

Well, look at it from her point of view. Other 3-year-olds are self-absorbed and not likely to lavish her with the same kind of attention that an adult can. It's very natural for children to enjoy being around adults who spoil them and give them attention and affection, and some children even prefer it...but you're the mommy. You get to decide who she's with and when. Is your ex-fiance her father? If so, you may only be limited to control over it so many days a week or whatever the agreement is, but you're still the ultimate. You are absolutely right that any adults who ARE with your daughter should NOT be drunk, and if your exfiance lets his drunken friends around your daughter too often, take it to a higher authority...someone who can step in and force him to curb his behavior if talking to him about it won't fix it.

At any rate, from HER point of view, it makes sense for her to enjoy the adult companionship because children her own age are more likely to be engaging in things like parallel play (where children play near each other but not necessarily "with" each other) while an adult can play WITH her, and tell her how smart she is, etc. But you get to decide who she's around and when, and if your exfiance will not conform to your wishes that she is not exposed to drunken adults, you should seek legal intervention for safety's sake...but try talking to him about it.