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My 9yr old son has been diagnosed with :   Schysofrenia, PTSD, ADD, ADHD, Separation Anxiety, possible ODD, and we can see Bipolar, and Multiple Personalities, and I mean 4-5 in fifteen minutes.
I just got full custody after his mother gave up and said in front of him that he's not welcome in her house till he is a good boy again. Told him she doesn't want him anymore and that your dad can deal with you till you straighten up.
He was a total terror for the first Lil bit then started calming down when we out him on meds through a sphyc doctor. Then after about there months his mom wanted to see him and it took 4 sheriff units to get him back.
My wife and I have had the PERT team ( sheriffs ) zout to the house multiple time due to him slamming himself into walls, slamming his head into things, and fits of total rage.
He goes from happy to raging post, then acting like it never happened. He will say things while completely out of control and not remember saying any of it...? " I don't love you, I don't want to live with you, send me back to my mother so she or papa can beat me, I'm not a good kid, I'm the worse kid in the world, I hate you, your not a good parent, you abuse me ( I do spank him and only twice at a time sheriffs said I've done nothing wrong and CPS has told me the same). He's disrespectful, rude, talks back, sometimes throws things, yeld in our faces. I've taken things away, (taken everything away) tried the earningg system, soap in his mouth, restricted to his room, taken big stuff away like school outings, events at school. I can'tseem to find help anywhere for the things he does.
Its tearing my marriage apart and my wife has been through this cause of her parents being pieces of **** too so she is technically mor wuallified to handle it than I am, causing me to miss work for sphyc apts, counsiling meetings, to
stay at home cause it can sometimes and usually takes both of us to handle him, sometimes have to have my mother
step in and help.
Iim lost and have no where to turn and have seriously considered a christian type of schooling/boot camp.
My wife and I have 4 children together and are debating a devorse due to the behavior and worried about her three children getting injured while tryingto control him or wandering if they will think its ok to act like this and start acting out too.

I'm lots and need help or an out of home sphyc care to see what's really going on inside his head.
What are my options or are there numbers I can call to get him help that don't take 3-6 months to be seen??
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189897 tn?1441126518
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    some stim meds when combined with anti-psychotic meds can make your condition much worse.  What meds is he now on?
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Oh my.  Very sorry for the diagnosis.  That is quite a load of things for a 9 year old to be diagnosed with.

First, I am concerned that you don't realize the gravity of this situation.  You speak of his discipline issues as if he should be typical to other children and as if typical discipline would work.  It won't.  YOU need professional guidance on the proper way to handle things.  I will also say that many kids with NO diagnoses say horrible things in fits of anger such as I hate you or I want to live with my other parent.  

Couple these mental health and  neurological conditions you say he is officially diagnosed with through a psychiatrist with being abandoned by his mother?  yes, anger would be a normal response and every day occurrence.  

What medications is he on and what is his treatment plan in terms of therapy?  That is what is key here.  

Truthfully, I am a touch appalled that your approach is to consider boot camp for a 9 year old who has mental heath issues.  IN HOUSE treatment at a psychiatric unit is much more appropriate.  

So, part of being a parent is loving, guiding your children through.  I am sorry it is causing stress on the other kids and your current wife.  But your son is in crisis.  

I have a son with a developmental delay and he had negative behaviors.  we have worked on these, he's been in occupational therapy and many things have resolved.  But it takes much family commitment and work.  

It's hard.  No doubt.  But of EVERYONE in your life, this boy really needs you to step up to the plate.  

Work with his psychiatrists for the best treatment options.  good luck
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