Had you ever had anal sex before? The ONLY possibility - and its a total stretch - is that you had it anally, and just never knew it. However, I would seriously doubt that you had it anally for 6 or 7 years without knowing it.
If you hadn't had anal before, than that blows that theory.
In any case, one of you would still have had to have been infected by someone else. Chlamydia is a specific bacteria, and like the cold or the flu, it doesn't just appear - you have to have a source for the infection.
No, I haven't. That was a first and there's been a lot of first with him so I didn't mind experimenting with him. He also had a colonoscopy during this time. He had back surgery & I had lipo with a breast augmentation. Could any of these procedures have introduced the bacteria? I know, I am grasping at straws and my gut says that if there isn't any other answers but sexual contamination that he is just bold face lieing to me. It's hard to swallow such a thought since there hasn't been anything really off or strange in our relationship but I could be wrong.
No, the ONLY way to get it is sex.
I'm sorry. :(
I was afraid of the same answers. Life *****. I don't know what else to do. He swears that he wasn't unfaithful and for him to just make-up a story otherwise would be just unjust and truly dishonest. I can't even produce tears anymore. I can't pray anymore. I just don't know what to do. This has just torn me apart and he says he feels helpless without explanation or resolution. I wish this never came up because things were perfect before this damn std. Now I can't even function or get anything done.
Bless your heart...http://www.****.*** chlamydia can lie dormant and even evade tests according to the above post. Maybe this will help. BTW anal sex in never a good idea...even if you are married. I said a prayer for you...hang in there. Also, it is possible it was contracted from the instruments at the medical facility-it happened to my mom.
Chlamydia can't lie dormant - I sincerely wish it could have.
I'd like to be able to say with 100% certainty that you couldn't get it from medical instruments, but then people would just point out times that people get infections in the hospital, etc. It could happen.
All I can tell you is go with your gut. You know him, you know your marriage. We don't.
My eyes are bloodshot this morning. I have spent several hours suffering over this. I talked again with him and he swears he wasn't unfaithful. He doesn't see how it can't be contracted any other way but thru sex. He wishes he could give me an answer but he is looking for one too. What does my gut say. My gut says, I love him but if I believe that this was some immaculate conception then I would have to be stupid. I don't believe he is having an affair. He doesn't have time, he works, comes straight home & always spends his time with me and the children. I think it was an isolated event based on the facts that it can only have been brought in from a 3rd party. I wish there was more information about this desease then the repetative 1+2=chlamydia. I don't know where to get help anymore without being told indirectly that I'm being stupid thinking it was contracted any other way then thru sex. I don't know if I can move on, not knowing the truth. My eyes hurt, they are burning & my body aches. I'm so tired. I wish this never happened, everything was fine and now everything is a mess. Thank you for your words & time.
Can I suggest marriage counseling? Or at least counseling for you before you make any decision?
I've been going to my pastor by myself and I don't want to drag him to a counselor if he won't make the effort on his own. I've been down this road before and all he wants to do is move on and get back to how things were before but I want to know where it came from. If he did cheat on me, even once. If he made up his mind not to tell me, then there is no one in the world that can change his mind. He only opens up, when he see's his hand his forced. If something is going to prove that he was withholding some truth. Otherwise, he bottles up. If he truly cheated on me and he loved me, then he would tell me the truth and not let me suffer like this and I don't think anyone can convince him to do differently unless thru hypnosis. I love him and I'd be willing to work things out but with the truth and the not knowing is killing me. What if he is telling the truth but then how long would I have to wait for science to change history and fix my shattered marriage? Love isn't enough to sustain a marriage, you need respect and honesty too. Thanks for checking in on me. It's so greatly appreciated. Thank you!
Aww it sounds as if there have been some other issues before this. I'm sorry you are going through such a hard time.