Absolutely crying I need some more advice

[Katebabe96]

I recently came on here posting about a paternity question, I have just recently went to a new doctor telling them I don’t know my last menstrual period, they put me at my due date of December 25th
I slept with Man A March 31st and man B March 30-April 9. They are now saying my conception date is April 3 I’m in tears it can’t be man A baby please tell me it’s man Bs. I’m sick to my stomach right now and I feel like it may be to late for an abortion.

[Katebabe96]

My last period was may 23 and it ended on may 29. My first ultrasound I had was at 6 weeks and they dated me at December 28 for a due date. Now I’m overthinking and I don’t have the money right now to prenatal test.

[AnnieBrooke]

Honey, if you are going down a rabbit hole of what-if what-if what-if, the only thing to do is stop and think about something else. Rumination only takes you further down and causes more fear in your mind.

I'd go with what your 6 week 1 day ultrasound said, not what a later ultrasound said. They get less accurate for dating pregnancy as the pregnancy goes along.

[AnnieBrooke]

ps -- Check your dates, you said your last period began May 23.

[Katebabe96]

Omg ugh I meant March 23 and ended March 29 !

[AnnieBrooke]

Your issue is that the dates of the sex with the two men are so close together that while the bigger number of events with the second guy and the evidently more appropriate timing lean towards him, you can't entirely rule out the first guy. What if you went to see the first guy, and told him you intend to get an abortion if the baby is from him, and asked him to pay for the prenatal test?

[Katebabe96]

I have mentioned it to him and he wants nothing to do with me and has blocked me. I’m going Tuesday for a blood draw with ravgen I’ll find the money somehow. Fingers crossed it’s from man #2 I can live with that and make it work

[AnnieBrooke]

So what if he has blocked you, if he is the legal daddy of the child it will have long-term repercussions for him so he'd better face up to the need to know. That's why I said "go see him," not "send him a text." You have to be proactive.

If you're going Tuesday for a blood draw for Ravgen, does this mean you'll be able to get a sample from Man #2?

[Katebabe96]

If he is the father and I decide to keep it I will go through the military and have them talk to him, I want nothing to do with him. But man 2 yes I will be getting a discreet one

[AnnieBrooke]

That should answer your question if you can get enough DNA from the sample. I haven't heard that people have a lot of trouble with that, often the woman sends in the guy's toothbrush. Good luck, and write back when you hear.