DNA/ Whos the Father/ Ultrasound image

[Cassie_19]

I went through this whole thing with DDC letting me know father was 99.9% but after awhile I was having doubts so I had them double check. After they did I was called and told father was “ Is excluded” I was like wait what that’s not what I was told. They of course went back, apologized and all and told me he is “not excluded” and it was a typo. I had an ultrasound done and baby looks like guy A. Long story short I had sex with a different dude on June 28th and 29th. I had which I believe was a period on July 3rd but unsure now. Guy B I had sex with on July 13,14,16,17,18, and 19th.  Ultrasound of baby showing features of first guy I had was a good with. On December 22, 2020 the baby was measuring 24w3d which is a week ahead of what I was tracking. Due to lmp I was at the time of appointment 23w5d.
I’m now 28w5d due to lmp. I’m starting to think DDC is wrong.

[AnnieBrooke]

Women's periods don't reliably predict when their next ovulation will come or did come. If you are using a period date to discount a DNA test, that is using a weak or nonexistent piece of evidence to refute a very strong piece of evidence. It's like stacking a feather on one side and a brick on the other, and saying "I'm worried that the feather is really heavier than the brick."

[Cassie_19]

A DNA test can be wrong. Just like they said “is excluded” but then say it’s a typo seems sketch to me. The dates and ultrasound making more sense that there could be a mistake.

[AnnieBrooke]

Seems to me that in earlier messages from you outlining your dates and ultrasound information, they all ruled out the sex you were worried about, and made it clear your boyfriend was the dad, but you did a DNA test because you didn't trust that information. Now you don't trust your dates and ultrasound evidence either?

[Cassie_19]

Something is telling me they made a mistake and that I got pregnant from June 28th and I’m due April 9th.

[AnnieBrooke]

But you said earlier that your estimated due date is April 15, which indicates you getting pregnant something like July 23.

[Cassie_19]

April 15th due to measurements but April 9 due to lmp. I had a 4D ultrasound today and I keep seeing other mans features.

[AnnieBrooke]

But even if you use your lmp of April 9, conception date would be July 17.  It would have nothing to do with June 28th.

[Cassie_19]

Should I retest thru Ravgen?

[AnnieBrooke]

Well, hmm, Cassie. Your dates rule out the first guy all by themselves. They don't suggest you even needed to do a DNA test in the first place. You've already spent what, over fifteen hundred dollars? on testing, and you're not reassured. Do you think another test will reassure you?

In your shoes, I would just pay attention to what the dates say, and relax, and do a test once the baby comes (because you will need a post-natal test anyway to legally prove paternity) and then forget all about your prior worries.

But, I'm not you. If retesting through Ravgen will genuinely soothe your fears (and by "genuinely" I mean, you will never again think "What if the test is ... WRONG?!?!?!"), and if you have a couple of more thousand bucks to throw at it again, and if you aren't going to look foolish to the guy you are asking to test again, there is nothing particularly wrong with testing. Except, there's that thing where the more costly a test, the more it convinces people psychologically that they had a real reason to test in the first place. ("How could it not have been a real problem? The test cost a lot of money!")

It's a lot cheaper and simpler to just realize that if you got pregnant from the first guy, all your info from your doctor including your due date would be different. I realize you haven't done this, and have instead ignored what the dates suggest even when others have walked you through it, and downplayed the lab results (because someone read you the wrong thing over the phone when you called after you got results that said the right thing, to check up on them). All that suggests you won't be reassured by a new test either.

If you're certain a new test will answer your worries, and if you have the money, and (again) if you won't look like an idiot to the guy when you ask him to do a swab for another test, go right ahead. I'm all for easing women's worries.

[Cassie_19]

So, what if I’m measuring a week ahead now?

[AnnieBrooke]

By now, ultrasound measurements aren't very precise for the purposes of trying to decide when you conceived, since measurements can begin to vary from the average as the pregnancy progresses.  But even if you start by using your lmp date of April 9 to do the figuring (so you would not be "a week ahead"), your conception date would still have nothing to do with June 28; it would be around July 17.