It doesn't sound like the baby came from the wrong guy. Your due date and the baby's measurements from the early March ultrasound all say the baby was conceived from the sex February 4.
@annie so you think I can trust what my scans are saying? can They be wrong? It would they no by now if she was 3 or so weeks ahead.I only had sex on day 18 can you get pregnant when fertile window shuts? I’m only asking as Iv read up on woman that this has happened too and it’s thrown me.And the bleeding i had I can’t remember the flow but it was around 22nd jan .I didn’t experience implantation with my son tbh,so didn’t no what to expect!
If you got pregnant from the sex on the 11th of January, October 3 would be your due date. Has the doctor or ultrasound tech ever told you your due date was anywhere near that early? No. You say they consistently said all through the pregnancy that your due date is October 28, a good 25 days later. You've just got to pay attention to medical evidence and stop letting your guilt run the show.
You say you've "read up on women that this has happened too." Presumably you are not saying you researched scholarly medical journals for scientific discussions of ultrasound accuracy. My guess is that you asked Google, and up came the online equivalent of reading tabloid headlines in the grocery line (as far as reliability of information goes). Maybe one in ten thousand chat-room tales is a valid story that a doctor would confirm is correct (and that 1:10,000 estimate is generous). The rest will be someone who didn't understand what the doctor told her, or hear it correctly, or remember it right, and then later got upset because her understanding was different than what the doctor had actually said. A collection of fears, bad logic, misunderstandings of the doctor, miscommunications, and misinterpretations doesn't change your medical evidence and throws no shade on your own situation, doctor or the eight months of information you have.
You basically say you freaked out because someone's mother wants a DNA test before her son is on the hook for 18-21 years of the support of a child. Look the whole world in the eye and get the DNA test, right at the hospital the day the baby is born. This gives your child a permanent legal right to his father. It's important and a good idea -- that way, your boyfriend can't skip out on his responsibilities.
You say you have another child -- try to stop falling apart, he needs you to be a grown-up, and calm.
Thanks babe your so blunt but keep it real and I appreciate that thanks for you msg ...
@annie or anyone Iv been looking into some therapy and since asking what I asked Iv felt more at ease.But as I’m coming to 37 weeks mark Iv started to Get a little anxious and found myself just looking and reading over what you said.I did find myself saying to my self if I was pregnant from guy from 11th I would of gave birth now right? But why am I finding myself hoping I get to 38 weeks then that way it would make me 42 weeks also since that encounter and I feel comfort in hoping this as I no pregnancy don’t last longer then 42 weeks in the UK! They induce by 41 plus 4 max This normal to feel comfort from this, am I been silly again!
Meaning I’m finding comfort knowing that if I was pregnant from the 11th I’d be hitting 41 weeks weds, if I some what get to my 38 weeks it means I’d be 42 weeks by now if I was pregnant from guy 1 hope that makes sense if not I’m just trying to explain and it’s coming out jibbled !
Every week from now on that you go, you'll feel better.
When you get therapy, talk about how to stop putting your fears up there as equally significant to what the clear medical evidence says. Not only will the tendency to do this run you ragged, it is not a useful tendency for a mommy to have. :-)
Write in when the baby is born!
I’m having a sweep the 14th if that don’t work I’m bern induced 21st eeeek ❤️
Sat, I agree with Annie.
The most compelling piece of information is the scan on March 4, indicating you were 6 weeks pregnant. That puts the overwhelming likelihood that your encounter Feb. 4 resulted in pregnancy.
Scans at 6 weeks gestation are very, very accurate.
For it to have been off by 3.5 weeks, meaning you got pregnant from the encounter Jan 11 and were in fact 9.5 weeks, instead of 6 weeks, is not possible.
If you actually got pregnant Jan 11, and the embryo appeared to be 6 weeks along on March 4, that's a failed embryo that didn't develop. That clearly didn't happen - you're nearly due with a healthy girl.
Just a thought I had a csection with my first, how over due will they let you go over in general I’m from the UK.
Should I be active after my sweep tomorrow? How long do they take to work? Or is it best to just leave it to happen if it happens just wondering
Il be 38 one day when I have it and 39 weeks when I get induced... if sweep don’t work due 28th
I don’t want to overthink as Iv been okay since getting my head around my medical evidence due to my little issue I’d hate to get thrown off because of this happening
Okay so they have decided to not give me the induction they sent me home. I was there all day thinking that this was it lol The doctor said she feels she is going to leave me to go to 41 3 days. If I don’t go into labour by then I’m book to get induced by the 7th.she felt if I get induced the Need for a c section risk goes up My question is I thought it was to dangerous to go that far don’t pregnancy last 50 weeks? We’re does the 41/42 come from? Also @Annie I’m still pregnant lmaooo you was right I feel much better as the weeks have passed, and if I was pregnant from 11jan I’m sure I’d be hitting week 44 ! Snd that I’m sure IS NOT possible for a normal pregnancy! Feel silly I let that get to me but thanks again For helping me look at science and logic over fears and anxiety!
Hi so a little update I went into spontaneous labour 2nd nov and had my girl by c section, all went crazy after that as I hemorrhage Lost 4 litters of blood but I can honestly say I’m Lucy to be alive.But yeah my daughter is the spot of my boyfriend she has a distinct feature and one is the family’s mark which is the dash line under the lip on the chin,my boyfriend also has this and only 3 other have it in the family so far. But his mother still wants a dna don’t and until then she can’t be fully happy. Thing is I was cool now I feel Iv got this far and under again this pressure to do something I deep down feel I shouldn’t have to prove myself too! Plus we don’t even have a relationship like that.should I just not do it! Is it even still important too I feel like if I don’t I look guilty.But it makes me nervous to think il just do it for her and me have gotten it all wrong! Can a baby look like a man that ant her dad? Have the trats of of him... she’s doing this to my brain again ! I no I need to just stay realistic but it hard when you feel under pressure to do summit you don’t wanna deep down do
Congratulations on your successful birth, traumatic as it was! Get the DNA test; it will shut up his mom and it will put him on the line for child support. Don't even think twice, get it. Your child deserves it and you may well need the legal proof.