Custody?

[mushie156]

If the father has proven paternity just that give him any type of custody?

[AnnieBrooke]

If a DNA test shows someone is a child's dad, the test doesn't enable the dad to just walk in and lay out the terms and conditions regarding custody or anything else.  It becomes a discussion for your attorney and his attorney, and visitation terms (or shared custody) and child support payments are worked out by the lawyers and approved by the judge.  There are standard amounts of child support that the non-custodial parent pays the custodial parent, based on how much the non-custodial parent earns.  

Be clear, this is not not not NOT something for you and the dad to try to work out on your own.  If you've gone so far as a DNA test and now you think somehow that "gives him any type of custody," you need a lawyer like yesterday.  Don't sign anything, don't sit down with him to try to work it out because you don't want to have to pay for legal help.  Talk to a lawyer or someone at a legal aid clinic, and move now.

[mushie156]

The lawyer told I have sole custody because I'm the primary parent but the court told me we both have joint custody since the dna proved he is the father  and I want sole custody

[AnnieBrooke]

This becomes a negotiation for your attorney and his attorney, the amount of time he is allowed to spend with the child and the amount of child support he must pay.  If he fails to do this, you will have grounds to file for sole custody.  Keep records of anything he does that is against your agreement.  "The court told me he has joint custody" sounds wrong, do you mean the judge told you that he has the right to claim joint custody?  Then it is up to your attorneys to negotiate what that means, and to get it approved by the judge.

[lkaykirk]

Whats is the situation?