Is a paternity test needed..

[Ohmanxxo]

Soooo i was fingered by a guy after giving him head and i was worried about a chance of him having sperm on his fingers he did  not ejaculate in his hands... two days later i had sex with someone 3 times with ejaculation each time... is a paternity test needed? First guy had no direct penetration..

[AnnieBrooke]

Hi, I assume you are pregnant, and this is why you are asking? Does the pregnancy conception date count back to the eventful week you are describing?

It would be difficult to get pregnant from being fingered even if the guy had semen on his fingers.  You say he did not have semen on his fingers. This reduces the chances to 0%. I guess you only have to worry if you think he secretly did have semen on his fingers when he fingered you. If you think that, you should do a DNA test.

[Ohmanxxo]

I swallowed so the only way he could have got  sperm is when he pulled his pants up if there happened to be any left over.

[Ohmanxxo]

This was on day nine or ten after period sex with ejaculation was on day 12 13 and 14 after period.

[AnnieBrooke]

You didn't answer whether or not you are pregnant, and the following paragraph won't apply if you are asking just to know who would be the dad if you do get pregnant. But if you know you are pregnant, the following applies:

When I asked if the pregnancy conception date counts back to that week, I was not asking when the sex was in relation to your most recent period. I was wondering what the doctor said about when you conceived, or when your due date is (so you can count back to an estimated conception date). If he or she said it was around a certain time period or date, was it that week when you had the one guy finger you and had sex with the other guy?  When sex is in relation to the previous period doesn't tell who the dad is, unless your periods arrive exactly like clockwork every 28 days month after month. I was just trying to see if either guy in the particular week you were describing was in the right time range to be the dad. If you are pregnant.

[Ohmanxxo]

Well i actually already had baby i have just been very anxious about the fingering chance. I was due january 23 2019. Fingering happened sunday april 2018. Penetration happened may the 1st and also may the 3rd.

[AnnieBrooke]

Does "sunday april 2018" mean April 29? And did the baby arrive on his or her due date?

[Ohmanxxo]

Yes sunday april 29 and he came a day early tuesday the 22.

[Ohmanxxo]

Went into labor late monday

[AnnieBrooke]

OK, well, the dates don't help anything, then. As I said already, It would be difficult to get pregnant from being fingered even if the guy had semen on his fingers, and you say he did not have semen on his fingers. Fingering you without sperm on his fingers reduces the chances of you getting pregnant by fingering (which are already low) to 0%. If you think he secretly did have semen on his fingers when he fingered you, go ahead and do a DNA test so you can stop worrying.

The problem is, if you are so anxious that you believe he somehow had magic sperm on his fingers just from zipping up his pants, you might not believe a DNA test either. We hear on this forum often from women whose problem is anxiety, who write in and say "What if the test is ... WRONG?!?!?"

If you are sure you will believe the test and it seems clear to you that nothing else will convince you, by all means test. Test with both guys, that way one gets a "yes" and the other gets a "no," and then your anxieties can't con yourself into fearing that there might have been a lab error. (Don't just test with one guy or that is where you will wind up.)

Or, see a therapist about your anxiety. That seems to be running the show, if you are "very anxious" that a guy zipping up his pants got a boatload of sperm on his fingers and put it into your body.

[Ohmanxxo]

Anxiety aside i am pretty stupid to waste money on a paternity test then..?

[AnnieBrooke]

No, it's a good idea to do a DNA test any time you had sexual activity with two men within days of each other (and of your presumed ovulation) and got pregnant. It's never a bad idea to be sure.

[Ohmanxxo]

Would you say its nessessary in my case

[AnnieBrooke]

If I were you, taking everything into account (especially the obvious anxiety) I would test with both men just to never have to wonder again.

[AnnieBrooke]

In other words, not medically necessary based on the fact that you are sure he didn't have semen on his fingers, but maybe psychologically necessary for you.

[Ohmanxxo]

Thanks annie.