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Paternity dreams

Pregnant and having dreams that my baby belongs to my ex and not my bf. Yes i slept with them both during ovulation and am not sure who dad is.. Do dreams mean anything? Or is it the guilt of knowing i did wrong?
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I think we went over the chances that either guy could be the dad already. The odds aren't changed by dreams. If I recall correctly, your dates were too close to call, so there is at least a chance that the dreams are correct.
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Sometimes I dream that they look like my boyfriend. Then I dream they belong to my ex. I don't know if its the guilt of knowing I cheated and me thinking about it so much that makes me dream about it or if its a sign from god. But google says dreams mean nothing and we often dream about what we last think before we go to sleep. Is that true?
Cause i had a dream about me being arrested for child abuse and my partner was there. The interpretation was .. " If you were arrested in the presence of your partner, it portends failure in love and loneliness through your fault " . does that mean that we will break up because these kids are not his? Its like thats exactly what my dreams are telling me
It means you are fearful of those things, not that they will happen. Dreams are merely what we think about when we are asleep. You're thinking about these questions when awake, so it's no surprise you are thinking about them when asleep too.
I've been thinking about your situation. Does your partner know there is any question about paternity? (I'm sorry if this was already mentioned before, it's been a while since I've read all your posts in a row.) The reason I ask, is because the dreams might be merely because you are hiding the secret, not because they are going to come true. In other words, they might be your conscience talking.

If you want to try to preserve your relationship with your partner, I strongly suggest you tell him what is going on (if you haven't). And here is why: the more you delay telling him, the more angry he will be when you do have to tell him. Guys can get over learning bad news the same day you figure out the bad news, but excluding them for a whole pregnancy from knowing about the problem is really insulting, like you plan to fool them about a whole lot of things. So, if you haven't told him there's a chance the babies are not his (or might not both be his), yes there's a slim possibility he would never find out if it turns out the babies are both his. But there is enough possibility that you will have to tell him anyway (when the babies are born, if one or both turn out to be from the other guy) that you have only one chance to rescue the situation, that is to come clean right away.

Again, I can't remember if you have already told him what's going on. If you have, then you can ignore this. But if not, please take into account that by not telling him all this time, you are adding insult to injury. Secrets like this do not keep. You should accept that he has to know, and take whatever reaction he has as legitimate.

Good luck.
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