Paternity test maybe?

[Momtobe_aug]

I’m due tomorrow, August 1. I have fear of who the father of my baby is.
Details:

Sex with guy 1: October 18 or 19th?

Bleeding: October 31-Nov 6ish, can’t remember the flow, maybe bleeding from implantation?

Sex with guy 2: October 23-28 and Nov 6-20

First positive test November 29

First ultrasound after Christmas- 8 weeks so due date should have been August 5-7ish but baby measured bigger further along so they changed it

[AnnieBrooke]

If you had a period from the 31st of October to November 6, that rules out sex before October 31 as causing the pregnancy. (I'm assuming you know that a period means you are not pregnant.) You said your "first positive pregnancy test" was November 29 -- from your wording it sounds like you had a negative test (0r tests) before November 29? If the sex from October 18 had produced a pregnancy, a test would have been positive by the 1st of November. (Except that your period came. Which meant, you weren't pregnant.) After your period came, if I'm understanding this correctly, you're saying you only had sex with the second guy. I'm trying to figure out what part of this story is worrying you.

You say "First ultrasound after Christmas -8 weeks." How many days after Christmas was that ultrasound?

[Momtobe_aug]

Yes, I took a few pregnancy tests from the beginning of nov to the middle of the month. My first ultrasound was December 26 or 27th, I’d have to double check.

I’m scared that the bleeding wasn’t actually a period, if that makes sense. After my bleeding, you are correct, I only had unprotected sex with the second guy. He never pulled out any time we did. The guy in October wore a condom but I know they’re not 100% and I worry about any semen from pre-cum or any from after sex when he took it off that may have gotten on me (we never had penetration without the condom).

[AnnieBrooke]

That's pretty far-fetched, given that in order for you to be pregnant from the October guy, the following would have to be true:
- Your period would not have happened
- All your negative pregnancy tests before November 29 would have been wrong
- Your ultrasound in December would have to be wrong by 3 weeks
- All your later ultrasounds would have had to miss the fact that your baby was three weeks further along than the doctor thought
- Your baby would have been born (and three weeks old) by now

[Momtobe_aug]

So do you think I can stop stressing it? It’s just always the “if” factor. Like what if it wasn’t my period, what if I ovulated super late but still got my period and my negative tests, I don’t know. I have really bad anxiety so I know that factors in to my stress

[AnnieBrooke]

I don't think that if I said to stop stressing, you would, but how do you explain away that your baby would have been born three weeks ago if your scenario was true?

[Momtobe_aug]

Just the what if factors I mentioned

[AnnieBrooke]

But, what about the fact that if the baby came from the sex on October 18, it would already be here? Doesn't that hit you with any logic?

[Momtobe_aug]

It does, but if ovulated super late, couldn’t I still be pregnant and not had the baby yet?

[AnnieBrooke]

Not with an ultrasound on December 26 or 27 saying your baby was on point for size and developmental markers consistent with 8 weeks GA.

[Momtobe_aug]

Okay, thank you

[AnnieBrooke]

(You also said "if I ovulated super late, couldn't I still be pregnant and not had the baby yet?" But if you ovulated super late, you wouldn't have gotten pregnant by sperm from October 18. It would have all been dead.) Try to relax. Write in when you go into labor!

[Momtobe_aug]

Thank you! I’m just think of every possible scenario and scare myself. My cycles are relatively normal, 28 days, usually, bleeding for about 5. Some times varying 27-29 days.

So any potential sperm from Oct couldn’t have gotten me pregnant around Nov9-14?

What if implantation was late?? Would I still both scream gotten my period on the 31st?

[Momtobe_aug]

I’m sorry, I don’t know what happened to my last question.  Would I still not have gotten my period*

[AnnieBrooke]

Sperm dies after five or six days, it doesn't hang around in your body through your next period and malevolently get you pregnant weeks later. It would be long dead.

And if implantation is "late," the embryo doesn't survive. Basically the embryo has to get some nutrients, so it implants as soon as it can.

Stop scaring yourself. If you're constantly dumping these stories on your boyfriend, you owe him a huge apology. You had all these tests and all this evidence, and the fact that the baby wasn't born three weeks ago is the strongest proof of all that he is the dad.      

[Momtobe_aug]

Thanks a ton, really.

[AnnieBrooke]

Take care. Get some sleep, you'll need it. :)

[AnnieBrooke]

Any word on the baby's arrival? :)